The healing value of hands…
When my children were little, I would tell them to hold my hand. I did that primarily when we were crossing a street, in a busy place and I wanted to keep them nearby, and when I wanted to make sure we were connected. I did it so that I was completely sure they were protected. And, yet, even though I thought I was doing it for me, it also helped them to feel safe and secure.
From the time we are all very young, we learn to grasp things with our hands. We learn to value the many things we can do with our hands. We use them to help each other. We use them to feel safe by grabbing the hand of another, we use them to feel connected, to write, to build, and to create beautiful things. We use them to show love, care, a sense of connection, and value to another person or living thing. And, we use our hands to heal each other.
When my hubby and I were first dating, we held hands as we walked and anytime we wanted to feel close. Now we hold hands while watching a movie or shows, when we pray before meals, and when we just yearn for that connection.
It’s about saying your presence helps me feel better without actually speaking the words. What we can do with our hands has always been something that I hold dear to my heart and so the other day when I was watching the show The Good Doctor, my attention was drawn toward the lesson Shaun was experiencing. Shaun’s character portrays a person with autism who is also a doctor.
I enjoy this show very much from the standpoint of a special education teacher who worked with, taught and learned valuable insight from many individuals with autism. I saw the daily struggles they dealt with when it came to understanding and not understanding social and life cues.
In the show, Shaun is uncomfortable with the sense of touch. He is slowly learning that it feels good to hold someone’s hand…that it gives him and the other person a way to connect and to feel support and even though he feels strange about it, he is also discovering it’s benefits.
Holding hands can also be therapeutic simply by taking the hand of someone who is dealing with fear, facing danger, or someone who is grieving…it’s a way for them to know that someone ‘has their back’, is right there with them and they are not alone.
We were never meant to go through life alone. When I think of the many times that someone has helped me feel better simply by using their hands, I feel valued, blessed, and loved and that is a beautiful feeling…one that I want to not only receive but also to give.
Lessons learned: I am so thankful for all the caring and loving people in my life that express themselves and their care of others by using their hands. It reminds me to watch out for others and to show care to those in need of love, healing, a connection to another, or to feel safe. There is a famous song by the Beatles called…I Want To Hold Your Hand. It’s a gentle reminder that we have it in us to let others know how much we care simply by taking their hand. We were never meant to go through this life alone. We were meant to give each other a helping and loving hand.
They say…that friends come into our lives for a season and for a reason. I know this sounds cliche’ but this is one of life’s true and universal statements. It’s also true that many people come into our lives for a purpose. Maybe it’s just to drop a little message to us that we need to hear or to give us an example of how to be or how not to be…but the intention is to make an impact on us in some way.
Friends I thought I would stay best friends with for my entire life are either no longer a part of my life or scarce…and friends I never expected to be friends with have become mainstays. Life is like that…always changing and many times…it’s not what we expect. But I am thankful for each of them and for what we have brought to each other’s lives.
In all of these cases, each friend has enriched and blessed my life in some way. Many have taught me, many have helped me become a better person, many have brought joy to my life and have helped me through some battered times. And, only a few have brought hardship, hurt, and sadness yet they too were here for a reason, I accept that, and THANKFULLY only for the season 🙂 I, in turn hope that I have done some good in their lives. Although, I have to admit that friendship is one of the things I feel like I don’t ‘do’ well. 🙂
But, there is a story I would like to tell you, about a woman who did have the whole friendship thing down although I believe, she too, would have said she didn’t feel like she was good at it. She was pretty humble. Her name was Anne and she was the epitome of friendship. She was kind, helpful and caring and she was genuine. When she was thinking about me, she would pick up the phone and call me. She enouraged me and I hope I did the same for her. When she would visit me, we would sit at the kitchen table talking about anything and everything sometimes into the night and into the early hours of the morning. She encouraged me to be me, to go on adventures, and to love and care for others. She had ‘my back’ and I had hers in the good times and in the not so good times. And, here’s the thing…I wasn’t Anne’s best friend but I felt loved by her, included and valued by her and to me, that is what friendship is all about.
I remember one such time in my life where my little family and I were ‘hit hard’. I couldn’t talk to anyone, I was immobilized by the tragedy at hand, heartbroken, and stuck in grief but she wouldn’t give up. She kept calling until I picked up the phone and she got me talking, crying, and even laughing, and working through the loss of our unborn baby. She is no longer in my life although the impact she made on it is visible every single day of it.
My HOPE for all of you is that you have many friendships where you feel loved and valued by another simply because you are YOU ❤ Have a wonderful Tuesday!
Lessons learned… Cherish the people, the friends, in your life in each moment and cherish those who stay in your life in all circumstances.
There is this woman who works the farm and ranch right across from our city hall. I have seen this woman out multiple times over the few years that we have lived here working her land and I have often wondered about the life she lives when I see her on the huge hay thrasher that tends to dwarf her five foot petite frame. What brought this 50 something woman with a long blond ponytail and a hat to shade her eyes to live this life. As I drive in to town, I see her harvesting her hay or using some other piece of farming equipment and sometimes see her near the corral where her gray stallion and the other beautiful horses gallop around and, I wonder, what’s the story here. Is she there working the land and managing her horses alone or is there an entire family in that big house on the hill?
I mentioned my curiosity about her at a party on Sunday night and many of the long time residents of our little town filled in the blanks for me. She has lived there for many, many years and has grown and harvested the hay for as long as they remember. It is her farm and ranch. She also enters competitions for her hay and raises it for that purpose and to sell it.
Now, with my new knowledge, my thoughts of her interesting life are of me wondering if she knows the pleasure and the joy she gives others simply by doing what she is most passionate about. When the land is a bright green color, it is breathtaking to see. I think the reason she intrigues me so much is because she chose a path not often taken, a path that brought her out in nature and a path that brings joy to herself and to others.
I have also learned many a lesson from her over the couple of years we have been here. Here are a few snippets…do what you love, keep a strong work ethic as the rewards are great, think out of the box…who knew there was a competition for hay? :-), and the big one…you can do anything you set your mind to doing.
Have a wonderful rest of the week! And, may you find the things you want to do in life and have the courage to do them!
Photo credit: pexels.com
I have finally reached the point of ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance of the way things are that I have no control over. Acceptance of health I have or don’t have, acceptance that, if I don’t accept things and start preserving my health, I really can’t move on to where I want and need to be. I must accept the physical limitations to reach where I have always wanted to be. This stage…I call, my journey home. Home to the life I have always dreamed of and where I feel free to be me. It will accompany the 3rd Act we are now living here in the country. My life has been a very blessed one so far but I tend to try to do more physically than is healthy for me. I had always pushed hard because anything less than that would be, to me, failure.
Years ago, I remember reading a story about a man who was well along into living his life. He had just been accepted to medical school and on the evening of the second day of classes, he was at the pool with friends and did a high dive off the diving board. His life changed in an instant. Little did he know as he was experiencing that feeling of exhilaration in a free fall dive in to the water that he would not come back up on his own. The dive broke his neck and left him paralyzed from the waist down with only limited use of his hands and arms. His story could have ended there but it didn’t as Charles Krauthammer persevered and would go on to graduate with his original Harvard Medical School class and become chief resident in his final year of residency. He graduated as a psychiatrist and went on to discover a mental illness related to bipolar disorder, but a secondary disorder that could eventually signal dementia in older adults. His discovery in this area led him the following year to delve into the epidemiology of bipolar disorder and this published research actually launched his career into psychiatric research and landed him in Washington, D.C. to work with the Carter administration. At that time, he began to pen essays that got him the attention that would later build his career as a political columnist. His famous words as a person and as a psychiatrist are what resonate with me each and every time I start to feel down about the things I can’t do right now.
His words regarding his accident…”my one bad break.” Overall, I’ve been dealt a pretty good hand.” “I have given what happened 100% ACCEPTANCE”…”All it means is whatever I do is a little bit harder and a little bit slower,: and that’s basically it…everybody has their cross to bear…everybody.” He also said “I made a vow when I was injured that it would never be what would characterize my life.”
His words speak to my heart and remind me to remember the lessons learned. Always be grateful for what you have, find solutions for a great life within your circumstances, create a focus that makes a positive impact on the world, let your voice be heard, and always strive for the dreams you are wanting to achieve.
So, if I seem to be a bit more scarce these days it is that I am picking, choosing, and being selective in the activities I choose to be a part of. I know that I cannot keep physically pushing hard like I have been doing and so I am now choosing to “do the things I can and forget about the things that I can’t” do or would be too much for me. So, please do not feel neglected and feel free to reach out to me if I haven’t reached out to you in a while. Hugs to all <3, have a wonderful and love filled day ❤
‘The Kitchen is The Heart of every Bakery, every Diner, every Restaurant and every HOME’
In every home we have lived in, the kitchen has meant a great deal to me. It’s where I can create wonderful dishes for my guests and my family to enjoy. Traditions were and are created in all of our kitchens. The pictures you see are of my last kitchen where most of our traditions originated and a large majority of our celebrations came to life.
It will always be one of my favorite places as I spent 23 years in this one creating so many recipes. This kitchen is where the kids helped me create special dishes like the Christmas Eve lasagna that soon became a favorite… and where we created and baked treats. It’s where my mom and dad made jelly and homemade bread with mine and my sister’s kids. This kitchen hosted many a holiday and many early weekend mornings baking. This kitchen is where the first Mickey Cake originated thanks to Maurice Sendak’s book called “In The Night Kitchen”. He was one of our favorite authors when our children were little. It’s where we perfected our chocolate fudge recipe together…first with my daughter, then with my son. It’s where they both learned to cook.
A new tradition begins tomorrow. In my kitchen I have now, I will be making peach jam for the first time and I will be making Tabouli (Tabbouleh). It is one of my son’s favorites and it brings back memories of the Mediterranean market that he and I would frequent on Saturday mornings and we’d go to their kitchen and order our Tabouli, hummus, and sometimes the meats that the chef would make to take home or to friends’ places to share. The chef there always made us feel welcome as if we were walking into his own kitchen in his home. He would sit us down and have us try different things he prepared that day. It was a wonderful experience. And, so, I will make this Tabouli to take for my son to enjoy when we visit him soon.
Now you see why I know that the kitchen is the heart of every home, every bakery, every restaurant, and every diner. There are so many stories that revolve around ‘the kitchen.’ It is what brings people back asking for more of, not just the food, but also the atmosphere, the fun, the feelings, and the celebrations. The kitchen feeds the family, the friend, the guests and teaches our children lifelong skills, as it also feeds our souls by building relationships, traditions, and memories.
Wishing all of you many happy experiences in the kitchens that have become a part of your lives.
We Texans take our state very seriously. When you hear the words “Texas Proud” it stands for our love♥️ of ‘all things Texas’. And, when you hear the words, “Don’t Mess With Texas” you’re probably thinking we are saying ‘don’t litter’ since that’s how the motto was born…as a slogan to keep Texas free of litter. But, it stands for so much more than that. It’s the way we feel when someone talks bad about where we live and when they try to do our state harm. We are fiercely proud. We here in Texas are proud to be here, proud of our rights, proud of our freedoms, Proud of our traditions, proud to be Americans, proud of our lakes and rivers, our wildflowers and our music.
We are proud of our state bird and all the other land and water birds that in-habitat our state.
Texas bluebonnets Northern Mockingbird
We are proud of Dallas, Houston, Fort Worth, Austin, and San Antonio and all the other little cities with many named after other countries or other places. There are so many small cities that we started to run out of names and so we started naming them thing like Italy and Paris which actually has its own Eiffel Tower right in the middle of town. We are proud of our ranches, our farms our livestock and in our case, living the country life and let’s not forget our Friday night high school football and our college football. But, I would have to say one of the things we are most proud of is our Texas BBQ and that is one thing no one gets to mess with.
Recently, a San Antonio politician tried to do just that and it backfired on him. Politics and BBQ don’t mix when you are telling people to boycott one of the best BBQ places around. It only works if you are hosting a big BBQ and that’s when people come out and droves and you will find lots of fans. Feed people Texas BBQ and many times you’ll have a friend for life.
The other thing we are noted for is sitting on the front porch with a glass of tea, sweet or otherwise, or an ice cold beer with family and friends. And, it’s the best life ever.
Texas, you are my safe place, the place where I feel most loved, the place where I feel most comfortable and most happy. You, Texas, give me everything I’ve been looking for in my life. I’m so proud to call this my home for 25+ years.
Oh the places we go and the fun we have had…Each picture we take, each beautiful thing we see has its own story to tell and when it comes to nature, the stories are endless. Road trips can be amazing when it comes to all the beauty you get to see.
Years ago when two of my sisters and I were living in San Diego in my parents’ home as young teenagers, we were playing the question game. One of the questions that came up was…what if you lost one of your senses? Which one, out of all the others, would you not want to lose. I said, “my sight” as I had always enjoyed the beautiful things that I encountered every day. For a few years after that when I was diagnosed with a progressive incurable eye disease, I (we) all thought I would, after all, have to learn to live without my sight but then seven years into the diagnosis, the drusen stopped depositing itself on my optic nerve and has since gone into remission. I tell this story to contribute to my ‘lessons learned’ because what I did discover during that scary time was how it gave me a stronger sense of love and value of the beauty all around me.
Recently, we took a small road trip…just the hubby and I and what you see below are the many beautiful things we discovered. Each one has a story to tell as we adventured out to the Ozarks of Arkansas.
IN EVERYTHING, THERE IS BEAUTY…Cherish the beauty that surrounds you. Never take it for granted as it too, has a very important purpose in LIFE.
I have a very strong love for animals, especially horses and birds, and I do love to talk with many of them. I also have a love for forests, bridges, barns, trains, tunnels, and most bodies of water.
Have a wonderful rest of your day and week! Seek the beauty in all you see. It soothes the soul. ☀️💚☀️💚☀️
My mind is saying “I want to fly, I want to SOAR, I want to be as free as a butterfly and discover this world to the fullest.
I took these pictures last week. They remind me of how carefree I have always longed to be but never could be and how I still want to SOAR like a butterfly or a bird!
I have this incredible drive to experience all things life.
And yet, my body is telling me something else. I literally have not been out of my house in days.
I did not expect to be hit so hard from this past week of fun as I do have a routine that helps me to sustain this wonderful lifestyle of mine.
But since this has happened, I decided today to give others a view from the inside as to what it’s like to live this very different life. It’s time to make my voice heard to give others a better understanding.
There are some very important things to know about people who live daily with a chronic illness. It has only been in the last few years that I, personally have started to accept that I even have chronic illnesses as I had been in denial for so many years most likely since I was eight years old. I am sure there are many others out there just like me😊.
The message below says it well for all of us dealing with extra stuff and feeling like we can’t measure up because we can’t keep up…
When it comes down to it, we all need that fundamental right…that sense of belonging, to be respected, and feel valued on a regular basis. And, we all need each other. These rights and feelings hold extra meaning to people who have daily struggles because we are treated differently. Many times we experience feeling ‘invisible’ because we can’t keep up and are different, others treat us as if we are ‘less than’ or merely incapable of doing things or making decisions for ourselves. We are excluded from activities that require endurance, normal physical abilities, and strong independence yet we are some of the most independent and emotionally strong people out there. Our chronic issues are what have made us stronger, more courageous, and more independent. That is what I want others to see. I want others to understand that we have the same needs as everyone else and many times the same wants.
Like I said in the beginning of this blog, for as long as I remember, I have longed to ‘fly and soar’ and experience the world. It’s kind of ironic that I would be given this passion for life and yet only be able to experience it more slowly and more well planned than most. But, I guess I was given that drive to remind me to keep pushing on in the face of adversity and for that I am grateful.
And, so, ‘lessons learned’😊, I go into this week with new boundaries set in place and with the knowledge my struggle is real, isn’t everyone’s😎 and I must remember it every day and if on the outside it looks like I am sometimes unfriendly, not social, or showing isolating tendencies, it might be because I am fighting hard that day to remain significant and to enjoy ‘all things life’ in the way that I can.
And, so, for now, I will embrace these new lessons and keep The HOPE!
Have a wonderful week and remember to find the HOPE and the JOY that life brings no matter what your circumstances are. ☀️💚☀️
We discovered this hidden gem called the Chairy Orchard last week when my niece was visiting. Oh to be young again!
There is this quote that says…”when I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, and I reasoned as a child.” Yet, for me,when I was a child, I spoke, understood, and reasoned like an adult and now that I am an adult, I speak, understand, and reason like a child and an adult would in many cases. I like to keep life adventurous, full of fun, and full of joy. It used to bother me that I was so different and then I realized that I had the best of both worlds all of my life. I consider myself an ‘old soul’ and being an ‘old soul’, I totally understood the fun Chairy Orchard brought to our world. It is a chance to be a little different, to be a little creative, and to enjoy life’s simple pleasures.
I value looking ‘outside of the box’. I give advice that sometimes even surprises me that I thought of it. I think things through and don’t waste time asking why it is, I just accept that it is. When I go out, it’s well thought out on what I want to experience. I see no need to be unnecessarily stressed and find ways to minimize my stress unless it’s there for a good reason. I love meeting new people and I value having deep connections in my relationships. I am a lifelong learner and I don’t get into the latest craze…it usually bores me. I value the company of those much older than I am and am constantly being told that I am such a calm person. I also love and truly understand what it means to give. These are all traits of an ‘old soul.’
In an interview with the women who established Chairy Orchard, they were asked why? What’s it for? What’s it all about? And, there answer was there is no reason. It’s all about having fun and being creative and for others to enjoy and decide what they want to get from it. 🙂
People come to Chairy Orchard for a date, to be proposed to, to be a kid again, and to relax and enjoy a completely different type of fun.
Have a wonderful weekend! I hope you have some fun this Friday enjoying photos from Chairy Orchard.
One of the sailboats from our local sailboat club
A part of the island where we like to beach the boat
The dam between the two large lakes near us
More pictures of the island. This is the peninsula that we could stand on but it’s still underwater in the middle of July. No standing on it now😎
Across from the island we love and where the blue herons love to be
Now, that is life and in my opinion the only way to live it.
There’s this really good Volvo commercial that talks about being ‘nobody but yourself. Life seems to just work when you are yourself. It’s so much better not to have a conflicted mind and body.
A while back I saw something on the show Seal Team where one of the Seals says he feels like he has spent his whole life living up to everyone else’s expectation and in doing so, he figures he doesn’t even know who he really is. He has spent every day trying to be somebody he is not and has been waging a war within himself.
Don’t do that!!! Be YOU!!! Stand out! Live up to your own expectations and when you have the chance to be vulnerable with someone, take it. If for some reason they don’t like it or don’t respond to you sharing about life then that’s on them, not you. You just keep on being you. Value yourself enough to not bend to what others want you to be. Be authentic you. The person you were created to be. When you do that, your soul comes alive and becomes excited about life.
Remember too, that you, before anyone else, knows your value so don’t let someone who doesn’t know your value tell you your worth. They don’t know you like you know yourself. YOU are the expert. You know all about your gifts, your talents, your things you want to work on, and your character. YOU know how to apply all of those to the real world…sure you can seek guidance from others to help you but you know what is best. When you stay true to you, work hard, go after your dreams, and plan your journey, your story starts to unfold and life becomes a blessing. You find the people meant to be in your life, you find people start to accept and love you as you are, you find opportunities to be you just about everywhere you go and you live each day building upon the past day and moving forward with a focused attitude knowing what you are looking for and knowing how to make it happen.
To me, it is the only way to live, walking in the shoes and along the path that works for you. As you journey each day, take this reminder with you…to be ‘nobody but yourself.’
Note: this text from my son on Tuesday came with a lesson that ties in well with this post. It’s about a katydid that stayed on his car from work all the way to his home.
“…they’re meant to camouflage with foliage but he decided that he wanted to stand out as much as possible on my blue car 😂 ‘even at 60 mph.’ I think we could maybe all learn a lesson from this katydid.” “He’s still there chillin”
Lesson learned! We all spend so much time camouflaging ourselves that we forget to stand out and just ‘chill.’ Be bold!
Thank you for nominating me https://decorcraftdesign.com/ for the Real Neat Blog Award! I have really enjoyed following Mel’s blog. She has some great ideas…go check out her latest. The history behind the award is that it was started back in 2014 by Dear Kitty 1, to recognize bloggers for their sites.
The rules of Real Neat Blog Award are:
• Put the award logo on your blog.
• Answer the 7 questions asked by the person who nominated you.
• Thank the person who nominated you and add a link to their blog.
• Nominate any number of people, linking to their blogs and let them know you nominated them by commenting on their blogs.
• Come up with 7 questions for the people you nominated.
https://decorcraftdesign.com/ questions for the Real Neat Blog Award nominees are:
1. What is the coolest thing you’ve ever done? rock climbing
2. What is the nicest thing you’ve ever done? instilled the love of adventure and the love of learning in our children
3. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done? traveled around the country in one vacation
4. What is your best feature as a person? my personality and my desire to help others
5. What is the best thing your blog can offer to readers? ‘lessons learned’
6. What does summer means to you? warm weather, beautiful sunsets, swim and lake time
7. What does coastal means to you? anywhere along the oceans and beauty
Here are the questions for anyone who wants to do it…and for the bloggers listed below.
My nominees for The Real Neat Blog Award are:
check out the beautiful pink hues…
“I don’t feel very much like Pooh today” said Pooh. “There, there” said Piglet, “I’ll bring you tea and honey until you do.”
Sipping on my tea under the big oak tree…I can understand what Pooh means and how very smart Piglet is. Tea and honey make all things better. 🙂
Over ten years ago we visited Victoria, Canada and it was then that I fully fell in love with morning and afternoon teas. We felt the same way when we visited Banff, Golden, Calgary, Jasper, and other places near there. But it isn’t the tea itself that entices me into this ritual of having tea. It’s the feel of the tea cup in my hands, The feel of it when it touches my mouth, and the drinking of it. It is a comfort drink but really its more than that as it calms me and slows me down to enjoy life just a little more. I enjoy the same feeling from drinking coffee but yet there is something more magical about having a cup of tea. It’s the elegance of tea parties and the time spent with those I care about while sipping on different flavored teas that have made me become a tea connoisseur. It’s also my love of Canada and the Canadian culture and my love of Europe that brings me more to the tea.
It’s the sharing of great conversations while sipping on tea or having a tea party. It’s the delicateness And beauty of the teapots and the teacups.
And, it’s the way that a cup of tea or even a glass of tea can change the mood and the attitude of an entire day.
Have a wonderful Tuesday enjoying life! My hope for you today is that you have a ‘Piglet’ Or many Piglets in your life too… <3. Piglets’ are a special breed. The make you feel valued and loved.
If there is one thing America loves to do, it is…CELEBRATE!
with as big a bang as we can get. We like celebrations…most of us do anyways. It doesn’t matter if they are big or small or in between, our goal is the prettier the better and what better way to see ‘pretty’ than to light up the sky with colors and say: Look at us! we are here, we are celebrating our freedom, our independence, and the lives each of us have made. We are proud to be Americans.
Does America have problems, sure, of course, everywhere does but those problems we have that you see in the news aren’t necessarily real. And, it’s hard to know what is real. Yesterday I saw two news stories on the same subject and they contradicted each other. Some stories are, to an extent, made up to tell the story the news outlet wants you to hear and to respond to emotionally. My point is…sometimes it’s very important to be extra careful when it comes to what you believe.
So, as we Americans celebrate our Independence today, let’s remember those famous words of one of our poets…”we are more alike than we are different” (thank you Maya Angelo) and we are definitely more UNITED than we are divided.
I am proud to be an American because most of us in this country are what we here in the South call “good people”. We are the strangers who reach out to lend a helping hand when a fellow American is in need, we are the neighbors who check on each other and gather together in great times and yes, in tragic times, good people can be found all over America helping another simply because the help is needed. Good people and of course our military and first responders are all the unsung heros of America. They are the ones who don’t make the news…they go about quietly doing good and building up the people and the country they love and live in.
So, when you hear the news coming from and about America, think about all the aforementioned people because in America, it’s usually the negative news and the squeaky wheel that seems to get the grease and gets picked up by the news outlets.
And, when you think of the United States of America know that most of us treat each other really well. We respect, accept, and care about each other. That is the America I know. All of us are like that except for those noisy, angry, few that twist things and try to divide us and who consistently try to give our country a bad image.
Have a happy and blessed day. Best wishes to all of you ♥️🇺🇸💙
❤️💙Proud to be an American💙♥️
To all my readers from 54 countries and to those in America, I say thank you for finding me and reading my blog. I appreciate ALL of you and since going public with this blog, I have learned so much about our wonderful world from many of you. Thank you!
Photo credit goes to my very talented daughter❣️
Since I was still feeling the effects of the week this past weekend, we slowed down and enjoyed the simple things in life. We relaxed on the patio near the oak tree…
went for a drive, spent time in my happy place(the pool), watched this movie called The Park Bench and, on Saturday morning, I felt up to going to the local community market. I chose the market as I unfortunately had to miss the fun Freedom Fest put on by our little town.
In the movie we watched, the actor was talking about the American dream and how he worked picking strawberries ten hours a day. Those words and the fresh fruit and vegetables found at the market got me in to a ‘lesson learned’ moment.
I have a visual memory and as the man on the bench in the movie talked on about working ten hour days picking strawberries, I could picture him doing just that and when he said ‘it is hot, back breaking work,’ I really understood since I know the feeling of the body saying enough…as the pain sets in.
After visiting the community market in the heat, I started thinking about what it took to bring the fruits and vegetables to market. The hard work to toil the land, plant the seeds, tend to the crop as it grows, picking the ripe fruits and vegetables, sorting and putting into baskets all the food, and setting up the tables at the market. There was also a jam maker there. She grows and picks her own blackberries and then makes them into jam, pours them into jars, and comes to market. When I think of the work and the diligence it takes to bring the final product to market, I realize the true value of the process each person took before I saw them on Saturday morning sitting at their tables selling their goods. I decided that from now on, I will make an extra effort to think about the process…what went in to each encounter I have and to try to value it as each experience comes at me each day.
I can take it another step further and think about the effort someone else made to build this place so that I can be sitting here on my patio looking out at the beautiful flowers
and the oak tree I sit under and where the visiting kids and some grownups have fun on the swing. And, even further, each time I take a bite of food, I want to savor it knowing that someone worked hard to get it to me all the way from it’s seed to it being ready to be picked and delivered.
And, what about the effort to make the sno-cones we picked up on Sunday from the stand that was right next to the fireworks stand. I know well the process they went through to put it in my hands as my family owned an ice cream parlor as kids and the parlor had a sno-cone machine in it. As kids, we worked in that ice cream parlor with it providing us with our first job experiences. Back then, we had to drive down to the French Quarter in New Orleans to pick up the ice to be used. As we waited for our sno-cones on Sunday, I knew the stand where we bought them had to get the ice, open the shop, get the syrups ready and so on and it made it so much more enjoyable thinking about it as we ate our pretty multicolored sno-cones.
This type of thinking could go on and on…now my thoughts wander to my wonderful happy place and the crystal clear water in it and as I swim across it I can open my eyes and see where I am and I can feel the cool water as it surrounds me. The process to bring me and my pool this clear water is not an easy one and I want to remember to be grateful for all the time and work each person has put in so that I (we) can enjoy it.
And, so, my lesson learned today is don’t take anything for granted. Enjoy it all! Be grateful for all the work others do to make all of our lives a little easier. Remember the value each has by remembering the process it took.
This thought and lesson can also be applied to all the beauty around me and even if it seems like we are merely enjoying the simple things of life, each took a long journey and path to get to where they are today for me(us) to use, to enjoy, and to consume.
Have a blessed and bountiful Tuesday filled with many people, wonderful things and experiences! I am forever grateful for all of you who take the time to read my blog. I hope that you have enjoyed today’s post!☀️💚☀️
Okay readers, fair warning 🙂 This is another one of those “dear soul, last night I heard you crying posts” I am not always a “Pollyanna” although I do try to find the sunny side of things in ‘all things life’ but some days are just incredibly tough to apply that philosophy to…with yesterday being one of those days. In my blog…dear soul, last night I heard you crying written a couple of years ago, I experienced a really rough night of physical pain because I pushed too hard for too long.
And, so last night I wanted to yell, Oh Monday!, How could you? (My hubby says I need to show the other side of life in my blog because life isn’t always ‘high’, it also comes with ‘lows’)
Yesterday, I found myself experiencing a day like the one two years ago. Since it was Monday, I am blaming it on Mondays because “rainy days and Mondays always get me down…” 🙂 or so the song says!
Video credit goes to You Tube – 12Mulligan
After all, it WAS Monday yesterday and it ended up being one of the toughest pain days…no need to go in to detail…and it felt as if the world sped up as soon as I woke up and when I jumped on I couldn’t get my footing. Things were coming at me so quickly. There were unexpected phone calls and texts, ‘fires’ to put out, pain to manage, heartache, and just plain being needed everywhere. I kept pushing on throughout the day knowing it wasn’t the right way to go. I couldn’t stay focused on one thing as other tasks were demanding my attention and I definitely felt the pressure. I knew I was heading in the wrong direction with each and every move I made. I knew I needed to stop but I didn’t and I kept spiraling downward FAST! And, yet, I stayed in that mode. I had neglected myself, pushed how I felt aside, took care of the most immediate issues and quickly moved on feeling lost and overwhelmed…yes, LOST!
That was my soul saying: ENOUGH! There had been so many hurdles to face on Monday and I wasn’t ready for them. That’s why, at the end of Monday after being blasted by so many things during the day, I basically ‘crashed’ and I lost my sense of purpose.
Do you know what it took for me to come back from that? Just the simple act of someone caring. All it took was someone saying to me ‘how can I make your life easier right now?’ And, that simple question came from my hubby. He took over and I could feel the oxygen coming back into my lungs. I could step back and breathe a little and let someone else ‘take the wheel’. In doing that, I slowed down, managed the pain…both kinds, and by the end of the night, I was even laughing again. Sometimes, I get so caught up in helping, managing, doing, and accomplishing that I forget the most important thing.
So,what is the lesson here?
Lesson Learned: When you see someone having trouble, in pain, or struggling…simply ask, how can I help? and be ready to jump in so they can listen to what their soul is telling them it needs. Sometimes, we forget to slow down and just breathe and it takes the kindness and caring of someone else to get us to look at things differently and do what our soul is telling us to do. We are all in this together ❤
Today, I am thankful for the helpers, thankful for those who jump right in, thankful for all the people in my life, and thankful for the many lessons I learn…especially the ones I learn on Tuesdays 🙂
http://talktodanyah.wordpress.com/ Thank you for this honor and nominating me for The Random Acts of Kindness Award💗
An ACT OF KINDNESS
We have a friend who lives near us. This beautiful southern lady is in her late 70’s and her life consists of one random act of kindness after another. It’s how she lives. She sees a need, she fills it. When she fills it, she has this ability that encourages others to do the same…you know…paying it forward and it creates a ripple effect. She stops by neighbor’s houses unannounced. Her visits are the best. She checks on people. She stops and buys eggs from the local farmer and distributes them to people because she sees a need or just to brighten their day. She is the ‘clothes for the homeless gatherer’ and ‘food for the shelter collector.’ People will stop by her home with things to give and she puts it in her trunk and delivers the clothes and food to the big town near us. She brings people together for community by hosting lunches and dinner parties and game nights. She volunteers at her church to help those in the drug rehabilitation center in town. She knows when someone isn’t feeling well emotionally or physically and she places herself ‘up front and center’ to help. She reaches out to others with her daily random acts of kindness and brings sunshine and joy to others each day. We are all blessed by her presence in our lives.
Now for the nominating…There are so many people that follow my blog that are deserving of A Kindness Award…many who have ‘made my day’ more often than not. I will nominate three people in keeping with the theme of this award and hope that ya’ll know that I feel blessed by all of you ❤
So, the blogger who nominated me for this challenge is none other than kagould17 🙂 His real name is Allan but I really like referring to him as kagould when I share his stories with my hubby. Thank you Allan 🙂 I enjoy his life experiences in his photoblography so much and look forward to each new post. He is now on his fifth blog spot https://blographytoo.photo.blog/ and has written over 580 posts since he started blogging. His photography of his life experiences, his travels, and especially all the beauty of Canada are a wonderful treat for the eyes. Canada is one of my all time favorite places in this world and he captures it beautifully. Go and check him out!
The person that created this challenge is Rory.
The topic I was given to offer two quotes for is Determination!
"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take" ~Wayne Gretzy ...so, take the shot! “There are three things, to my account, that I need each day. One of them is something to look up to, another is something to look forward to, and another is someone to chase.” ~Matthew Mcconaughey
My topic for your 2 quotes is Wonder!
Don’t let it slip away. LIVE A LIFE YOU WILL REMEMBER …and one where you are making memories with those in your ‘circle, your tribe’…for one day, you’ll leave this world behind…
Cherish your day and all those in it. And, when it’s over…say thanks for the memories and thank those who were wanting to be a part of it.
Today’s blog is dedicated to one of my kindred spirits, a close friend, she was also one of my ‘soul sisters’ and I felt honored to be one of hers.
She was a beautiful soul that blessed this earth for too short of time. Kindred spirits, defined, are our confidantes and soul sisters. They are those people that we find ourselves feeling the most comfortable with….those individuals that we allow ourselves to feel the most vulnerable with. We share our deepest secrets with them and they with us. We connect well and when talking, hardly ever experience a lull in conversation. There are many conversations, and we forget to check the time when we are together because our time together is so meaning filled and so much more important and enjoyable than anything else. We are energized by their presence and they by ours.
Kindred spirits bring us happiness, joy, and contentment because they give us a sense of belonging, a sense of value, and confidence and empowerment.
A few months back one of my kindred spirits and I had appointments with doctors the same week. As the week went on, she went silent. She didn’t respond to my texts and her online presence became nonexistent. I began to worry. When she did talk to me she first asked how my appointment had gone and when I asked about hers…I immediately knew that mine had gone far better than hers. Within seconds we had both received news that would change our lives, hers was life ending and mine was life altering. I knew it without her even saying it. She said it was not the news she had hoped for and that she needed some time before she talked about it. It was then that I knew, we were on the downward path. I had hoped we could have walked this journey together as well but, in the end, she chose to surround herself with only her family. We never said goodbye not even then always leaving each other with the “see you later” salutation but, really, we never needed to either and she knew that too. We were kindred spirits.
My heart was heavy these last few days. She is gone but now, free from pain and free from the hardship life had given her with her illness. I am thankful for the memories, thankful for our wonderful friendship, grateful for her unique perspective and I’m happy to have been a part of her journey on this earth and grateful to have known her and so, I say to her if she can ‘hear’ me now…thanks for the memories and for being in my life and “I’ll see you later♥️.”
I am lucky enough to have eight women in my life that fit this definition. I feel allowed to be free to be me and I feel comfortable in who I am around them. When we are together, we all get to be genuine and that is a gift and a real treat in this life. So, instead of feeling sorrow over having lost this wonderful friend, my heart is filled with gratitude of time well spent while together and sharing all that we valued most in life. Mostly grateful though that I don’t let the time slip away. Those in my circles know how much I love them, how much they mean to me, and how blessed I am with their presence in my life.
Hoping that you are cherishing your day and not letting it slip away💕💞💕 Amd that you are seeing all the blessings in it.
These are my lessons learned today…cherish it all😊
Ah yes, MUSIC…
Music soothes my soul and speaks my words when I cannot speak them.
There is a song that has been on my heart and it speaks what is on my soul these last few days. It’s John Denver’s Rhymes and Reasons…He spoke so much through his music.
I ALWAYS have hope for the future and for all of us…we are all in this together ❤ Have a wonderful day wherever you are and whatever you are doing 🙂
Rhymes & Reasons ~John Denver~
So you speak to me of sadness
And the coming of the winter
Fear that is within you now
It seems to never end
And the dreams that have escaped you
And the hope that you’ve forgotten
You tell me that you need me now
You want to be my friend
And you wonder where we’re going
Where’s the rhyme and where’s the reason
And it’s you cannot accept
It is here we must begin
To seek the wisdom of the children
And the graceful way of flowers in the wind
For the children and the flowers
Are my sisters and my brothers
Their laughter and their loveliness
Could clear a cloudy day
Like the music of the mountains
And the colors of the rainbow
They’re a promise of the future
And a blessing for today
Though the cities start to crumble
And the towers fall around us
The sun is slowly fading
And it’s colder than the sea
It is written from the desert
To the mountains they shall lead us
By the hand and by the heart
They will comfort you and me
In their innocence and trusting
They will teach us to be free
For the children and the flowers
Are my sisters and my brothers
Their laughter and their loveliness
Could clear a cloudy day
And the song that I am singing
Is a prayer to non believers
Come and stand beside us
We can find a better way
Songwriter: John Denver
Rhymes & Reasons lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
The lakehouse gives something different to each recipient that walks through its’ doors.
I had a ‘lesson learned’ moment about life here in the country and at the lake.
The lesson is that the experience that each person seeks and has as they walk through our doors is a unique one. I know what I would like them to experience yet each one comes in with a different set of circumstances and needs and wants and what they get from being here is about them and not about me. And, to me, that’s the best part about living here at the lakehouse. People can come and receive what they need.
For me, it brings a calm, peaceful state especially when I spend time on the patio, in the pool, or out front in the porch area around the fire pit.
For my daughter, it’s an escape from the business of the city, a time to slow down and ‘run free’ a little more. It’s a place for her dog to let go and run and not have to be tethered. For my son, it’s the drive in, time on the lake, seeing all the wildlife, and relaxing on the patio looking out at the trees. For hubby, it’s the quietness of the surroundings, the land and all the old oak trees that when he sets his eyes on it, he breathes more slowly and feels more relaxed.
For friends, the pull is the get away to experience lake life and take a mini vacation. It might mean coming on a Friday night and going out on the boat, evening board games, quiet patio time, an early morning walk to the lake followed by breakfast and a dip in the pool, getting cleaned up and going out to a nice dinner at the local country places. Or just staying put and enjoying the house, the pool, the good food we make together and the outside games and time outdoors.
For others, it’s a drive out for a day to visit, to soak up the quietness and the beautiful trees and have a meal with family and friends. It’s about sitting around the bonfire at night, looking up at the stars and finding Orion’s Belt and planets in the dark sky. It’s about hearing the owls speaking out in the darkness and the coyotes howling in the distance.
But, most of all for everyone who ventures out…it’s about ‘slowing down’, watching a beautiful sunset, waking up to morning coffee on the patio and watching the birds at the feeder or in the birdbath while the hummingbirds buzz above …doing this all the while enjoying nature all around us.
Have a blessed Sunday in whatever you are doing and wherever you are doing it☀️💚☀️
The day here today reminds me of Mister Rogers television show where he sings that song, “It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood, the neighborhood, it’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood, won’t you be mine, won’t you be my neighbor.” If you are a fan like me, I bet you just sang it instead of reading it😊
It IS one of those beautiful days here. The birds are singing, bright colorful butterflies flying around the flowers and flowering plants, the hawks are flying overhead, nothing but peace and a few friendly neighbors in our little ‘neck of the woods.’ It’s a beautiful warm day. A day good for sitting under the oak tree with a book and an iced tea, a dip in the pool and outdoor grilling. All the signs of summer and it’s the first time I have slowed down enough to completely enjoy it. It feels so good to have the sun beating down once again.
Ah!, life on the patio can be so sweet especially when I slow down enough to notice the simple things like the shadow patterns the sun creates on the cement. I truly love the simple things life brings to us. As these are little reminders to cherish what we have. The taste of the ice cold tea. The ability to see those shadows and the beautiful green trees and flowers of every color, to hear the birds and geese and ‘Blue’…one of our hummingbirds that fly right over my head to the feeder filled with the sweet nectar. To be able to touch the green grass and feel it beneath our feet and to feel the coolness of the clear water in the pool. And, let’s not forget the smell in the air of the blooming flowers.
As I sit here beneath the tree, I sit in peace remembering friends that are dealing with serious health issues right now cherishing my time I have gotten to spend with them, cherishing all the people who walk this journey of life with me so far and cherishing the beauty all around me.
On this day, many years ago, hubby and I were walking around a similar beautiful place in Michigan. I was in labor and we were awaiting the arrival of our first born but it was too soon to go for labor and delivery so we walked near the creek and listened to the water splashing over the rocks and felt the coolness on our feet. We walked under the trees along the path to the pond and we talked about what life would be like for the newest member of our family who would arrive later that night.
Happy Birthday to our beautiful daughter💕. You have blessed our lives beyond words. ♥️♥️♥️
☀️💚☀️ Have a beautiful and blessed day!
Or Face Everything and Rise…FEAR AND ITS’ ‘MEANINGS’
Early on in my life I felt fearful…I know we all have…whether it was because someone was doing something to make me feel like that or where they made me question my own sanity and decision making skills. It was during those seasons that I felt the most off in my confidence.
I don’t live like that anymore and have been consciously aware to not make decisions based on fear for quite some time. It makes me anxious now to make decisions based on fears that I have.
My daughter and I were talking the other day about how some people do that…live their lives and make decisions based on the fears they feel and she said something that was quite wise and insightful.
“If we live our lives based on the fears we have we are robbing ourselves of the moments of joy our life experiences provide us.”
It’s a beautiful day in the country today as I am sitting on the patio thinking about those moments of joy she was talking about and I can smell the honeysuckle in the air and feel the gentle breeze on my face and hear it quietly rustling the leaves on the oak tree while the birds peek out from behind the leaves and flutter from branch to branch. I think about where I am at in life and think that had we based many of our decisions on the fears we had, we wouldn’t be where we are today. We wouldn’t have done so much or gone after or even come close to realizing our dreams. And, our lives would have resembled more of an existence than the life we live.
To me, that sounds more scary than facing a little fear of the unknown.
When I think about it, I wouldn’t be writing this blog right now because starting it was kind of scary and, after all, there was that fear of failure😬
If we didn’t face any fears we had, we would have always lived with the what if’s? I just can’t imagine not living this life we are living now.
Here’s the thing though, I see this saying a lot on social media. FEAR has two meanings: Forget everything and run or Face everything and rise and it’s being posted as if they were opposite choices. While I do ‘get’ what they are trying to convey, I have to say in mine and my hubby’s life and for our kids and their lives, we actually did a little of both. What made us get moving is that we had that mentality of forget everything and just run, just go, have an adventure, experience life. Like my favorite saying when we were first married suggested: “Well it doesn’t matter, I’m moving to Wisconsin” when something didn’t go right. I had no intention of moving anywhere but it felt good to say it and it reminded me that I always had an alternative to whatever it was that was bothering me.
We did run after what we wanted to see our lives look like. And, in doing that we faced everything and rose and life became really good. Better than we ever expected.
In the end, doing both, helped us to really grow and to bloom and to be the BEST version of ourselves and it really has been a wonderful story to tell.
Happy Tuesday everyone☀️💚☀️.
May your day be filled with many splashes of sunshine, caring people, and moments of joy.
Photo credit goes to my daughter who took this picture of one of the Great Lakes on a recent trip.
Take a chance...always, when your heart is leading you to that door…Open it! Because, if you “don’t ever shoot, you’ll never score!”
Our May has been a very busy one and as things slow down I now find myself given the chance to think about the month, think about our lives a bit more, and enjoy the place we love…where we can just ‘be’ and soak in all that we have worked towards. It is in this time of thinking, enjoying the life we have, and slowing down that I write this blog today.
Explore, go after what you dream most about. Be adventurous, throw open the doors and experience life. Your dreams are part of your journey and part of your story.
The idea that if you don’t ever shoot…you can’t score, came from a movie called “For The Glory”. At first it was about a college basketball player who was really good at setting other players up to make a basket and essentially score but he rarely took the shot himself. With the encouragement of his best friend, he took a chance on the world of soccer and never looked back. He opened his door to success after his dad said to him, ‘if you never shoot, you’ll never score.’
Go ahead, take the shot!
As our son headed back East to an internship this summer with some amazing researchers that are working on helping our military men and women be more aware, safer, and work smarter; it really got me thinking. Both of our children are creatives, both are published in their areas of expertise, and both are passionate about helping and teaching others. I mention this because they both went after what they loved. It wasn’t always easy and they weren’t without struggles but they did it. They opened the doors and ‘took the shot.’
Early on, we encouraged them to find careers doing what they love. We took a lot of criticism for going this route with them, but, as I look back, I know we did the right thing. Encouragement and trust in the journey of life has created their life stories. When I think back over the past few years, I am astonished at how many wonderful things have happened simply because they took a chance and went after what they wanted and after their passions. My daughter is now looking to make a career move/change. She is following that nudge to move more towards her passions. They are both seeing the doors and opening them because they both have creative minds that love to experience life. Not just in their lives after 9-5 but also during the work times. They love and thrive on learning and seeing and doing new things.
Hubby and I have both tried to live this way for as long as we have known each other and even before we met. We have consistently worked towards walking in our own stories. Not, because we had vast knowledge on the subject…just because it seemed like the right path.
A few years back, we started working towards our ‘3rd Act’ plans. We have talked about them since the time we were dating. Two years ago, we put many of our dreams and plans into action and moved out to the country. Well…as country as we like it, that is.
Our country home is now almost exactly as we had envisioned it many years ago. We have the pool to work out in and to lay in the boats and look up at the big Texas sky. Today, a hawk flew right above my daughter’s head as she sat on the pool steps and ladder. It was amazing to see the hawk up close like that.
We have ‘enough’ land where we don’t feel barricaded in, we have ‘enough’ inside space to have nights that turn into mornings with close friends and family, and a large area to host everyone in the local family and then some…around the farmhouse table. And, in our hearts, we have ‘enough’ generosity and love to bring happiness to others that visit our home.
And, now, while working on our 3rd Act here in the country we can now start working the projects we have waited to do, plan the businesses, and work on community endeavors and help those who don’t have ‘enough.’
Life’s short, follow your passions, take time to bring others happiness and joy and enjoy the moments while living life to the fullest. Most of all…Take the shot!
Have a blessed, happy, and people filled Tuesday while doing all those things that you are passionate about and that makes you, YOU!
The laughter and the voices are now gone…only existing in the shadows and memories of yesterdays’ gatherings, as silence once again flows through our home. The last of the family have headed home or moved on to the rest of their trip and have begun their summers.
I liken this to the sun setting…as the day comes to an end and the beauty lingers on in the colors on the horizon.
This was a beautiful and incredible week with lots of celebrating while we were at the University. And, as my son moved on to his internship back East after graduating, we came back home and celebrated more with the introductions of the littlest family members to more of their great aunts and uncles that came to town to visit.
Life can be so beautiful and so heart wrenching all at the same time. May is a pretty tough month for many of us in my family. And, it is in these times that we discover that family is important (as my niece reminds us through her words and her actions).
In all it’s disguises and all it’s challenges, the biggest and most important thing that family bring to our lives is the love we share and the support we give one another. We may not always do it right but if we keep trying to show each other love and support we will get better and better at it. My son challenges me to be a better person, my daughter challenges me to be stronger and to never give up! My hubby challenges me to be the best me I can be in the moments as I watch him interact with the smallest members of our extended family and the love he shows them.
As I look back at the pictures and the memories of this past week, I remember to see the beauty in each one of us and to cherish the times we have together and to cherish the memories of those in our family that no longer journey with us here on earth.
And, so as the sun sets and the parties and celebrations end, I will keep on cherishing all that I have been given in this world and will forever be grateful for the memories and the support and love I have received from family…
And those are my lessons learned from life on the patio today☀️💚☀️
Have a wonderful, love and gratitude filled blessed day🧡💛☀️🧡💛
Brene’ Brown, researcher, storyteller, and fellow Texan says:
“You will walk inside your story and own it or you will stand outside of it and hustle for your worthiness.”
No one should ever feel as if they are not worthy of the life they were intended to live, go after it, search hard, and when you find your story, run with it and never stop living it!
I sometimes lose focus because of my curious nature. I can be driving down the street and see someone and my thoughts will be diverted to something about them.
‘Take Me Home Country Roads…
Many days, as I drive in to town, I will see a woman walking along the side of the road. Keep in mind, on the main road into town, there are no sidewalks. There are culverts in a few places but not along the whole route and it’s not a good idea to walk in a culvert as you don’t know what’s living or hiding in them and these days they are filled with water from all the rain.
She is an older woman…I am guessing in her late 60’s, with long wavy salt and pepper hair that blows in the wind as she walks and she is always carrying a gray plastic bag no matter whether she is coming or going back from the stores. Sometimes the bag seems more full on her way back than on her way there but not always. She walks with purpose, with a gait that is steady and directed as if she has made this a habit and a ‘to and fro’ experience.
As you can tell by the way I have described her I have given her presence here considerable thought. What’s her story? Where is she headed? Is she alone at her destination or are there many significant people in her life. Is she a mother, a grandmother? It’s obvious, this walk has become her routine, her habit, and I suppose, her way of transportation. She appears to be literally “walking in her story” and she seems quite content. She doesn’t look at the cars going by and it appears she doesn’t feel the need to. She is in her own realm as she walks.
I guess I am so intrigued by her because she walks with ease and yet with such purpose. I feel connected to her as she seems like someone who has found a beautiful place and is content to live out her story here just as I have. We are like-minded and I am inspired by her tenaciousness especially when I am having a tough day. She’s a wonderful reminder for me.
And, so every day I wake up and do as Brene’ Brown says and I ‘walk INSIDE this story of mine’
I may not be literally running “in my story” as I suggested you do, but I and we are definitely immersing ourselves in it everyday. Like take tonight, for instance, our windows were open and the cool breeze was coming in and that’s when we heard the geese flying oh so low! I wish I’d had my camera ready as they announced their flight over our home with wings flapping strongly in the air and voices so loud that they drowned out the sounds of the nearby peacock. We went outside to sit on the patio and listen to the frogs in the nearby pond announcing the arrival of evening and to watch the sun going down. And, as we sit on the patio, we can hear the whippoorwill’s song across the way that brings us to quietness hoping he will continue to sing.
We spent most of yesterday and some of today preparing for summer activities and the fun times ahead with family gatherings, friends visiting and milestone events that are coming up quickly and it couldn’t have made me happier. Prior to this, I spent a lot of time making plans and thinking about each person that would attend our family get together. The babies, the children, the out-of-towners’ and the fellow Texans. I love this part of it. We have put up the baby swing in the old oak tree in the backyard, the pool is ready, the outdoor games will be out and there will be plenty of life happening on the patio. The guest beds are made, the house is cleaned and my part of the food has been prepared. It’s who I am and what I love doing for others. It’s me, deep INSIDE my own story.
But, before this gathering and in a few short days we will officially become empty nesters. We have had quite a few teases at the nest being empty but now it’s official as of this Friday when our last child graduates from college and fully begins living on his own. I have spent my time here making sure that all goes well and that this event is beautiful and memorable. Again, I have loved doing it. It’s who I am.
Our children will go and live their own stories as time goes on and while we are included in their stories we have our story to live. We have our own path to walk and have a beautiful life out here in the country and our future is bright and full of promise just as theirs’ are.
Does it make me a little sad that this part of my story is over, well, sure it does but there is so much more living and loving to do and I can’t wait to get on with it. Each new day brings a new adventure INSIDE my story and, for that, I am feeling quite thankful and blessed at the end of this Mother’s Day.
Embrace your story and live it to the fullest ☀️💚☀️
Thank you Shad https://glowupwithshad.wordpress.com/ for this recognition and for nominating me for the Sunshine Blogger Award. I feel so honored that you feel my blog brings joy and positivity to others. I very much enjoy your blog and I have learned so much, and am motivated and inspired by your messages. Thank you for sharing!
My goal is to spread sunshine and joy everywhere I go, in all that I do, and through my stories. My philosophy on life is to make this world a better place by positively impacting lives and bringing happiness to other people, building and encourage others in their lives, and to have the courage to go after their dreams.
Thank you to everyone who reads, ‘likes’, shares, comments, and follow me as I write. I appreciate all of you so much and feel grateful to have so many people interested in what I have to say 🙂
Rules of the award
The questions Shad asked me to answer:
1. Do you think your blog has made someone’s life simpler? I don’t know if it has made life more simple for someone but I do hope it has made their lives a little brighter.
2. How many books have you read so far this year, which ones are your favorite? 4 and currently reading 5 on all different topics.
3. What has been your biggest challenges since you started the blog? and how did you overcome it? Finding the time to write. I am learning how to schedule now:-) Also, finding the time to reading many other blogs that I enjoy. I am doing the same. Scheduling it all in.
4. What motivates you to get up in the morning? The joy and hope of a new day and all it can bring.
5.What are your best three quotes? Hope anchors the soul! Music washes away the dust of everyday life. And, Walk in your own story!
6. What do think is more effective, EQ or IQ? While it is important to have intelligence, I think emotional intelligence is so much more important and it is the foundation of life. With emotional intelligence, all else falls in place.
7. How do you think we can make the world a better place? One kind act at a time!
8. Who is your blogger bestie? I have so many that I have connected with. I would have to say my bestie 🙂 though, is Kim at My Life http://windsofchange18.wordpress.com/
9. Where are you blogging from? TEXAS 😁
10. Any tips for beginner blogs? Keep going and reach out to other bloggers. I have learned so much from the messages of other bloggers.
11. What’s your best blog experience? The connection with so many other people
I would like to nominate:
To the people I have nominated 🙂 …
This morning as I was having my coffee and looking around at the things in my home, I realized I had entered a ‘blue period’. Picasso had a ‘Blue Period’ where he used many different shades of blue in his paintings. I likely did the same thing with my life without truly realizing it.
My ‘blue period’ has slowly crept up on me…so much so that I hadn’t taken notice at all until today. It was actually bittersweet when I finally noticed it. Until now, I hadn’t realized just how much my life has changed in a very short time. Looking around, there were few things left from my red stage of my life. A token here or there like a butter dish in the kitchen, a few touches of red in pictures hanging on the walls, and a candle sitting all by itself on the bar…all red. There is nothing left from the Italian kitchen I had at our old place except for this beautiful picture of a rooster hanging near our now blue kitchen. My daughter gave me this picture for Mother’s Day a few years back. The rest of the place is now greens, browns, dark grays, and many different colors of blue including a beautiful aqua blue. There are bright beautiful blues, denim blues, rich deep blues, and, of course, slate blue with the floor and back-splash…all things blue 🙂
However, I unlikely entered my ‘blue period’ in the same way Picasso entered his as it is said that Picasso’s ‘Blue Period’ came at a particularly dark part of his life. I, on the other hand, find blue to be a calming and peaceful color and I entered my blue stage at a joyous time of my life. It was when we moved here to begin our ‘3rd Act’ in our lives and the floors were slate and the back-splash in the kitchen were both deep blues and bright gray and the land and trees were a beautiful green.
When I was in my red stage, my days were filled with life…with business, my work, my family and being in charge of all of it. I saw red as a leader color. It represents power and courage and I felt both…but, power in a good way…like a serious sense of responsibility to not let anyone down and more like a manager or a servant leader way as I did both in many aspects of my life. Once we moved here, I soaked in all the greens and, yes, the blues in the house and I felt so good. I am guessing that the blues were just ‘lurking in the shadows’ waiting for me to embrace them and that is how we ended up with so many of them in our home. Well, that, and the fact that my hubby has these beautiful blue eyes I just love. 🙂 Noticing today though, I realized that I went from a very prominent red stage in my life to an equally prominent blue stage within two years. It has been a dramatic change. But, maybe that is how things go in life sometimes where one day we are a force of nature and the next we find ourselves seeking out nature for peace and calmness and becoming quiet forces in life.
I find it interesting how colors express the characteristics that dominate in our personalities at different stages in our lives. It’s also fascinating how colors can reflect our moods. Colors can brighten our moods or calm us down, give us joy and happiness, and sometimes bring sadness like when we have gray skies and muddy days. But, throw in beautiful sunsets with all the yellows, oranges, pinks, and sometimes purples and it brings us happiness and joy. Colors also give us hope and it is the color yellow that brings us this wonderful feeling. We get it through sunrises that promise a new day, beautiful yellow flowers, and pretty butterflies to name a few. The blacks and whites also give us a different set of feelings. For me, when I see a black and white photo, I see the details more emphatically than I do when the picture has colors and it allows me to enjoy the picture in a whole new way.
So, today, while I am missing my reds a bit, I am loving on the greens as I look out the window and the blues here in my home that calm my soul and give me rest.
Have a beautiful Tuesday and may it be filled with many colors that brighten your day.
While talking with a neighbor at the lake tonight he said they are getting ready to open the dam between the two lakes with Memorial Day weekend approaching. That means we get more water and those little stumps you see in the water is our little town’s pier with the boat ramp next to it.
The amazing part about it all is that our boaters are still launching from this ramp and we are all still out enjoying and loving time on and at the lake.
If my hubby were to eat most of these sopapilla cheesecake bars that I made today for a party, I could easily replace them.
Likewise, when I retired from teaching, I could be replaced. When we left our old neighborhood and home, we were replaced as someone else now lives in that home. When my son had to miss a team meeting due to a car accident, his work was taken over by another…in other words, he was replaced. When my daughter had to miss a day of work because she was sick, she was replaced for that day in her classroom. By now, you are wondering where I am going with this. 🙂
Since last week when the NFL draft occurred, the words replaceable and not replaceable have been on my mind and heavy on my heart. I think we tend to forget the importance of life when we start to think that people are replaceable. The jobs we do are replaceable. We are not! For me, I believe that everyone here has a purpose for being on this earth. I also believe that we are irreplaceable. When a person is no longer around, they can’t be replaced by another because what they brought ‘to the table’ was uniquely their own. We have recently lost many family members. Some have lived very long lives…others lives have been much shorter but it is in the memories I have of each one that I know how irreplaceable each one was.
Here’s the story that brought these thoughts to the forefront of my mind. During the NFL draft, the first pick, Kyler Murray was picked up by the Arizona Cardinals and the thought was that this draft was done so they could replace the cardinals 2018 starting quarterback Josh Rosen. And, sure enough, that is what happened. On that day Josh Rosen started to unfollow the Cardinals on social media and when NFL pro Steve Smith realized it, he publicly berated Josh Rosen for bad behavior saying…’You Are Replaceable.’
While I don’t condone Josh Rosen’s behavior, I disagree with how Steve Smith handles it. Yes, he is replaceable as a player but he, as a person, is NOT replaceable on this earth. We each have a journey to walk on this land and we each have an impact to make in this world. No one has any more value than another…not in our families, our circles, or our world.
When we are taught at a young age that we are needed, we are wanted, and we are treasured as the individuals we are, we all grow into beings that can do great things for our world. But, when we are criticized and belittled, we grow into ‘broken’ people.
I know that Steve Smith felt like he was calling out Josh Rosen’s unprofessional behavior but I think he was sending the wrong message. The better message would have been…’hey man, you are needed elsewhere, remain kind, remain professional, and find the better fit.’
I see this critical and judgmental way of dealing with things happening way too often in our families, communities, political leaders, and our world. Why not encourage and build each other up? Why not include others and help each and every person to feel accepted and valued in our world? Why not show others we care through kind words and actions? And, by engaging in conversations to understand each other better? There is a quote that says “before you judge, walk a mile in their shoes.”
Graphic Credit: from Pinterest
I think if we did just that, we would see each other differently and value each other more. Why do we choose to belittle, call out, exclude people? I think it is simply because we don’t try to see their value and their purpose in this world and we don’t embrace and accept who they are and what they have to offer. I also think that we don’t fully realize that each and every person from the moment they are born have a tremendous value in the family unit they are born into and in the world and when each is valued, accepted and guided and taught that they are IRREPLACEABLE and loved from day one, they will go on to make a positive and wonderful impact on our entire world whether it be through tiny ripples or large waves…when nurtured, loved, and shown their value early on, the impact will be amazing.
So, why not choose now to remember that each person is IRREPLACEABLE and important and live our lives that way on a daily basis. Why not show acceptance, care, and kindness to each individual we meet and those we already have in our lives now? I am not saying that we have to tolerate unprofessional or bad behaviors from others, we certainly do not but I do tend to think that if we as a whole show each other their value in our lives, most of that behavior will go away.
Many people are fighting battles from within. Battles of feeling like they don’t belong even in places where it is the norm to be accepted and included, battles of inadequacy, battles of past hurts, battles with how they value themselves because all they have felt is undervalued…taken for granted.
Let’s not wait until we lose someone because they choose to walk away from the ‘circle’ they are in because it hurts too much to stay or worse yet, until they die and then we finally see their value…the value they could have given the world had they been built up and learned the mindset that they were IRREPLACEABLE and needed in this world from the very beginning.
I think this is all most people want in life…to feel loved, valued, irreplaceable to others and accepted.
This is from mypositiveoutlooks.com
Have a beautiful Tuesday!
The Sunshine Blogger Award is a peer recognition for bloggers who inspires positivity and joy.
Rules for the award :-
Questions I was asked:-
What is the best thing about writing?When I write, my thoughts and my words become so clear…and I can’t wait to get it down on paper.
What is your favorite subject to write on?I love to write about my ‘lessons learned’ in life and joy, happiness, hope, and the beauty in nature.
Who is you favorite author/poet/writer ? I have so many…Robert Frost, Maya Angelo, song writers, screen writers, F. Scott Fitzgerald, A. A. Milne, Eric Carle, and so many other children’s books authors, John Grisham, George Lucas, J.K. Rowling and the list goes on 🙂
Which is your favorite book? Again, I have so many favorites but one that has always stood out for me is The City of God.
What do you look for in people? Characteristics such as genuineness, being kind and nice, honesty, and caring about others. Also people that have a sense of happiness and joy and love in their lives and, of course, people who love to be ‘the helpers’ in this world.
What is the best thing you like in nature? Bodies of water…babbling creeks, oceans, lakes, streams, rivers, waterfalls…
Which one do you like more: the mountains or the sea? Both
How did you deal with stress? Push through doing one task at a time while keeping in mind the whole picture and then debriefing when it is all done.
What is your favorite time of day…sunrise, morning, afternoon, sunset, evening? Sunrise…it brings the hope for a new day.
What is the importance of creativity in life? Without creativity life would be a little boring and the advancements we see in the world today may never have occurred without our wonderful, intelligent and creative minds.
How do you see yourself in 10 years? Living my best life possible with the considerations I have to live by.
Thank you both for recognizing me. My goal is to spread sunshine and joy everywhere I go, in all that I do, and through my stories. My philosophy on life is to make this world a better place by positively impacting lives and bringing happiness to other people, building and encourage others in their lives, and to have the courage to go after their dreams.
I very much enjoy your blogs. While your narratives are wonderful and I have learned so much, I love your photographs of so many beautiful places and things. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you to everyone who reads, ‘likes’, shares, comments, and follow me as I write. I appreciate all of you so much and feel grateful to have so many people interested in what I have to say 🙂
My questions for my nominees are:-
Now, as to my nominations:
Have a wonderful day filled with sunshine, happiness, and kindness ❤
“Sometimes you just have to talk to a 2 year old so you can understand life again!”
“No matter how old you are or how tough you think you are, if a toddler hands you their ringing toy phone, you answer it” because at the other end of the phone there usually ends up being a lesson for you. 🙂
I have heard both of these things said many times over the years and I really do believe we can learn so much from young children.
There was a song written many, many years ago by a lyricist named Linda Creed. The music for it was then composed by Michael Masser and it was Whitney Houston’s performance of it that brought the words and music to fame.
The words are what stand out most to me. Here are Linda Creed’s thoughts:
“I believe the children are our future...teach them well and let them lead the way, show them all the beauty they possess inside, give them a sense of pride to make it easier, let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be!
Too often we get caught up in our mindsets and forget to enjoy life as children do. We can learn so many great things from kids if we just stop, hit pause, and remove ourselves from our busy and many times stressful lives to play, to listen, to soak in all they are teaching us.
Take a minute and watch a child in action. I bet you won’t regret it and will most likely come away feeling a little more relaxed and surprised at the characteristics you will see. I did just that this past Sunday at a family Easter celebration. I saw and experienced things through the eyes of children and it was wonderful. When we do this, it slows us down and teaches us the true meaning of life…that people are the most important part of life. The little ones wanted nothing more than to spend time with each other, to be outdoors, and to talk and play with the grown ups. One of my great nephews said to me “outside” when I was sitting on the patio and asked him where he was going. I followed him out and am so glad I did because I got to see him enjoying the outdoors with his family, playing on the slide as he continued to tell me about things he saw. It was a wonderful experience and it lightened mine and my hubby’s spirits and it was just plain fun to watch him enjoying himself. Later on, we got to see his younger cousin trying hard to get his attention and other cousins sharing and playing with each other all the while enjoying each other’s company. I know you probably are thinking that these are all the simple and everyday occurrences of life, and yes, while that may be true…when we, as adults, hit pause and take time out to experience these occurrences, we get to see just how important those everyday things are.
We get to see that they are learning key things like respect, showing each other love and kindness, sharing, helping, communicating with each other, having fun, showing gratefulness, expressing their feelings without hesitation, finding joy, defining friendships, and laughing wholeheartedly. And, as we watch, we are relearning these lessons and remembering to make each of those characteristics important and in the forefront of our own lives. I wonder if that’s why so many people love having grandchildren around. They see the value that the little ones bring to our world. And, it is this reason why I, like, Linda Creed, see children as our future and why it is so important in the beginnings of their lives to teach them well and then let them lead the way.
So, the next time a child hands you a phone and expects you to answer it, please do so as the child handing you the phone may very well grow up and become the next world leader, a doctor, a healer, a teacher, a discoverer, an artist, a writer, or one of the many helpers we have that make our world a much better place.
The first pictures are some of the wildflowers and then the sun setting over our little town. This last picture is the moon rising and covered by clouds…I thought that it looked really cool 🙂
As I watched our baby squirrel, Fred (my name for him) this morning persistently try to climb the pole leading to one of our bird feeders; not satisfied with his helpings on the ground, it reminded me of that amazing characteristic called perseverance and how strongly it has affected my life and my family’s life.
Many, many years ago, I sat on the cliffs for hours and watched the sun set over the ocean. It was an amazing adventure. One that I was to repeat with my best friend many times over the years. Our best idea came to us while sitting on these cliffs and it was perseverance that has been the foundation of our lives since. I am thinking that is why I was reminded of it this morning as I watched Fred. He tried at least eight times to reach the actual feeder; each time without success. First by trying to climb the pole and then to the oak tree that hangs over the feeder but there were no branches close enough. He then attempted to jump from the trunk of the tree to the actual feeder only to fall flat on his belly. Poor Fred…I sure felt for him on this attempt.
Back to the cliffs, it was here, over 30 years ago on this very day, that I sat for the first time with a young navy officer and ate pizza and talked for hours until the sun set in the sky. It was here that while he sat there and talked about his mom and all her trials and triumphs that I thought to myself that this man was the man I was going to marry if I was to get married. It was here that mine and his love of adventure grew even stronger, and, it was here that he had the same thought…a life together.
It would take perseverance to begin our lives together as it took him asking many times to receive the ‘yes’ answer. Yet, once I gave that answer, I discovered my best friend, my biggest supporter, my confidante, my personal comedian, ‘my Rock’, my adventure buddy, my karaoke partner as we both love to sing and listen to music, and, my soul mate. I remember so many hiking adventures in the early years where we would break out in songs like “Follow Me” by John Denver and so many road trips driving with the windows down and the wind in our hair, and singing John’s songs or Loggins and Messina’s…”Let the River Run” and many others. Since that fateful day on the cliffs, we have traveled many places, raised two wonderful children who also rely on perseverance to reach their goals and live their lives, and who also have a strong love for outdoor adventures. And, so it was only fitting that our best idea…spending life together…come to us as we were enjoying the beautiful cliffs overlooking the Pacific Ocean as the outdoors is where we do our best living and thinking.
Fred has been my gentle reminder today of a beautiful moment in my life and has given me a “‘lessons learned”. A reminder to continue to move forward to more adventures and more great ideas all the while remembering and celebrating all the wonderful ones of the past and to cherish each and every day of my life with my best friend and soulmate.
This video was done by a talented individual and placed on YouTube where I found it 🙂 (Video Credit…YouTube)
Every morning, I wake to his “yelling.” He almost has the ability to interrupt the calmness and peacefulness of country life. But, only almost because after his initial ‘outburst’, he tends to go quiet for the rest of the day just going about his business. He is usually right outside my bedroom window and he does not stop his talking until I look out and see him and he looks at me. He stands there looking at the peach tree and awaits an answer….not from me but, I think , from ‘his friend’. He is perched high in the oak tree and patiently waits for his friend to arrive but his friend never does. I am guessing it is a little game he likes to play with the other birds and with me.
And, then, in a quick swoop, he flies down to the bird feeder to munch on the suet that is there waiting for him. No other bird dares go near when he is having his breakfast. I think it is because he is so loud.
I think he and I have developed this understanding, of sorts, where as long as I stay far enough away from him and him to me, we are both comfortable and go about our days. I asked my hubby about this the other day. It seems like such a strange relationship…and he says all the jays he has known are like that. They are territorial in a way. They don’t understand that THEY are the visitor.
Ha, I’ve met a few ‘creatures’ like that in life where they overstep the boundaries like this little guy does. I guess that can be seen in all forms of life too. Who knew? 🙂
We are easily spoiled when it comes to nice weather, green all around and sunny skies.
Of course we had been looking forward to the warmer days and green landscape after such a dreary winter, so that could explain our behavior and lack of tolerance for anything other than bright sunshine and pretty spring days. I mean, haven’t we earned it?😊. Haven’t all of us earned it?
On Friday night as we were sitting having a late dinner and looking out at the trees. My hubby mentioned it getting dark and my immediate response was “why does it keep doing that?!”
I identify a lot with John Denver and his love of sunshine and mountains. In fact, If you ask me sunrise or sunset? My answer will ALWAYS be sunrise so when you start taking my sunshine away, I tend to get a little cranky especially when we haven’t had very much.
Today, Saturday, was a very rainy, very windy, gray day. I do like rain and all it does for us but there is a point where I have to say enough already. Bring back my sunshine☀️!
Or, like my dad used to sing to my mother…”You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are gray, you’ll never know dear how much I love you, please don’t take my sunshine away.” It’s a great song and that is what sunshine does, it brings joy and light into the world. And, plus, to me, sunrises represent a new beginning…a way to start fresh and new. Kind of like the way I feel about Tuesdays…my do over day😀. When the sun rises, it’s time to start again on a brand new day.
As John Denver sings in his lyrics, sunshine makes you smile, it makes you feel happy, it’s like a good song that can pick you up out of the blues, and it “looks so lovely on the water”. I can attest to that. When we are on the boat, the water looks so refreshingly beautiful and inviting as the sun hits it and we can see it glistening under the suns rays.
I am so thankful and grateful for the longer days with more daylight but I still have that tinge of sadness and the strong pull to hold on tight and not let it go when the sun starts to set and my sunshine goes away until hopefully the next morning when it will rise again and bring me joy, happiness, and warmth to brighten my day. And, so I keep the hope that tomorrow will be a sunny day.
I hope you have sunshine tomorrow to brighten your day and bring you a little joy☀️💚☀️
Have a Happy and Bright Sunday!
“If you could read my mind love, what a tale my thoughts would tell.” These are words from a song by Canadian singer Gordon Lightfoot. I so love his music that it’s ingrained into my thoughts and, when a young guy rushed up to hold a door for me yesterday, my thought was, if you could read my mind…and, of course, I immediately put it to music with Gordon Lightfoot’s song.
‘Did he know…? Did he know he had brightened my day today?’ Or did he just see a need and fill it? Either way, it had a positive effect and I was grateful.
I wonder how many times we walk through our days without ever realizing the impact we have on others we connect with. I know I secretly journey through my day tallying all the good things that happen to me. It’s not like I’m really keeping track of each good thing and counting…it’s more like with each new thing that occurs my day continues to build into something fabulous. And, so I have to wonder, if this is happening to me, how many other people are experiencing something similar and how cool is that? I wondered if the young man realized just how much his small act of kindness had meant to me. For a split second, he made life easier. How many others had he helped or been kind to that day? Did he know the impact he made? I wonder if he realized that he had made a ‘deposit’ into my emotional well being, and into his own, and each person I encountered thereafter as I passed along his kind ways and it felt good. He, without even knowing it, had created a ripple effect.
If he could have read my mind, he would have realized he had created a tsunami in my thoughts, first the song which I thoroughly enjoyed bringing back to my memory and singing it in my head, and how nice it felt to have someone help me, and then the continuous thread of ‘what if’s?’ What if each of us did one kind act a day? What if everyone got to experience this daily? What if we could create a whole movement? I know, my mind just doesn’t stop thinking…especially when something triggers thoughts. 🙂
I have seen and experienced this phenomenon happen over and over again and each time I wish that there could be a powerful wave of this kind of occurrence but then I realize that maybe it’s better that is is a continual wave with many ripples that grow stronger and further as time goes on. Yes, that is what I will hope for…a wave of kindness and love for others so we can make this world a better place.
Footnote: My dream is that one day these occurrences become louder than all the meanness…the name calling, the bullying, and the critical words. Now, wouldn’t that be something really special to see and experience and, THAT, would truly make my day!!! 🙂
Photo: I picked this photo to show what an impact waves can have. I took it two years ago when we were in California to visit family. This area is called Sunset Cliffs and is one of my very favorite places and when I lived there…my happy place.
Have a wonderful and bright Tuesday ❤
There are two quotes that are resonating with me today and have been for a while.
They are Mae West’s quote “I never said it was going to be easy, (and it certainly hasn’t been…today, I feel exhausted) I only said, it’s going to be worth it” (and, worth it, it is) :-). and F. Scott Fitzgerald’s quote “I Hope You Live A Life You Are Proud Of.
And, this is what my story is about today. You may be wondering what these two quotes have to do with the title of today’s blog and so I’ll get started as this is where my story begins.
For most of my life, I have felt in my heart an urgency to stand up for those who are wronged, bullied, in pain, and those dealing with more in life than many others ever have to endure. My heart goes out to all of them.
I felt it was my mission to help those who were and are treated poorly, criticized, picked on, and ridiculed simply because they appeared or acted differently or because they were physically vulnerable or weak. I felt like this was part of my purpose in life. But, what I found most difficult was having the courage to stand up to the offenders and trying to get them to understand that each and every person has a God given right to be here on this earth and be treated with respect and care and to feel loved and valued by others. Whenever I stepped into a situation, I always had that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach when I knew I was going to have to intervene where someone was hurting someone else. It took a long time for me to have the courage and be okay with the consequences of my actions…yes, even positive actions can have fallout consequences and some of those have been pretty severe.
Life is about people. Life is about supporting and encouraging others. It’s about helping others feel safe, it’s about helping when people are hurting. It’s about loving others and showing them they are important. It’s about helping others follow their own hearts and live out their dreams. It’s about temporarily forgetting about my own needs when the needs of another are much more prevalent and urgent than my own.
This self imposed purpose of mine was not easy, it was hard just like Mae West said. It took a lot of courage as well, courage I didn’t even think I had, but, I learned so much and I hope I have made an impact. And, it was Mae West’s quote that, in my older adult years, that brought me through the really tough stuff. I learned quite a few lessons as I went through all those experiences of being on the outside. Mine wasn’t the popular role but, after all, I have no one to blame but myself as I did choose to follow my heart and will keep on choosing it because she is right, it is worth it!!!!
So, yes, Mr. Fitzgerald, I have lived a life I am proud of because it is within living that life that I have become who I am! A strong, courageous, happy, mostly confident 🙂 and loving person that hopes to make a positive impact in small ways by helping those who need it in this world of ours for many more years to come.
When you find the time…Spread a little kindness today, stand up for someone being wronged, stand up for the vulnerable, help someone who is hurting, spend a little time with someone who is lonely, help someone who is struggling, take time to listen to others, and bring a smile, hope, and sunshine to someone’s world. We are all counting on each other and we are all responsible for making this world a better place.
Lately, I have found so many people who are struggling to know their value and so another quote that comes to mind that fits nicely here is….”You is kind, You is smart, You is important,” from the book and movie, The Help. Lets all try to be the reminder to those struggling that they are important and valued in this world and deserve to be treated with respect and love.
Hugs<3 and I hope everyone had a Happy Thursday!
Queenie (our largest hummingbird) has returned. She came right up to our patio window to say hi, stayed for a few seconds and then fluttered off. She came so close to the door it was if she was saying I’ve been away a very long time and now I am back. Pay attention to me…look at me…don’t take me for granted. It was the sign of hope I needed this morning. It’s been a long winter here as I am sure it has been for many of you. All the gray skies were draining me of my sense of wonder with living out here…that sense of excitement we get when we return, and the sense of contentment. But, it is all coming alive again and I am thankful!
I will remember this feeling and not take for granted the birds, the hummingbirds, the flowers and beautiful green trees and green grass when the weather changes again. I am sharing some of the pictures of the fun things we saw this past weekend.
This is the first time I have seen wisteria grow on brown vine. The flowers came back first.
The little guy is a small Texas rosebud…It is strange that it is called a Texas rosebud as it looks more lavender/purple than red I finally got a shot of the emu
Across the street from our placeI really enjoy trains and train tracks. When we were young, we would go near the tracks to pick wildflowers and berries on Sundays. There is just something special about the sound and feel of a train rumbling down the tracks.Another view of the tracks
These pictures have such a unique view of the architecture of the trees that I had to capture what I saw.
Geese on a neighboring farm
Texas Bluebonnets starting to bloomThis tree reminds me of the tree from Pocohontas. It needs to be near the river not the railroad tracks
Daffodils near our homeMore trees, pasture, and green grass
The emus tree. There are five emus in this pasture. They do their best to try and stay away from the camera
They also share the pasture with the exotic looking chickens who never want their picture taken.
Have a wonderful Monday everyone💚☀️💚
Photo Credit: my wonderfully and multi talented daughter took the picture of this flowering tree. All other photos were taken by my hubby and me
The pre-Socrates philosopher Heraclitus of Ephesus said “change is the only constant in life”.
I can see how true that is right now with all the changes we are seeing. Around here, we are noticing all the changes with the signs of spring moving it’s way back in to our lives. It feels as if it has been a long winter in all of the United States and I suspect spring has been a welcome sight to many. I know it has been for us. We are seeing so many signs that the Earth is coming alive again and blessing us with all it’s beautiful colors, sights and sounds, smells and tastes. On one of our main roads near where we live, the cotton fields are bursting with white cotton coming from the plants and in a nearby town, the tulip farm is expressing it’s joy for warmer weather with rows and rows of beautiful colors of tulips. The grass and the trees are all green again too. I still have yet to see our first hummingbird of the season but I am sure they will be coming soon.
The changes in the Earth and the animals aren’t the only changes we are seeing this spring. Our’s is now officially an ’empty nest’. Our youngest will now have a new home on his own near where he will be studying for his doctorate for the next four years. These are exciting times for our children and equally exciting yet a little sad for us as we are a very family centered group here. 🙂 Yet, these are exciting times for us too. Change is occurring here and it is all mostly good changes. I am finding it is best to embrace all the changes and just ‘go with it’ and enjoy the ride wherever it may take us. It keeps life exciting and fresh.
One thing I want to remain constant in my life…our lives…are the people we have in it. I think people are the most important part of all of our lives. When we stand by each other and encourage and support each other in our endeavors and enjoy all that is special in each of us…I believe we are living to the fullest.
Being a highly sensitive person (HSP) and an empath, I have noticed more changes lately that I am not particularly happy with. These are the changes that I am seeing in our world. We are losing the value that we place on each other and opting for a more sterile relationship. I am seeing this through the use of social media, through the use of the news spreading negativity and meanness but I am mostly seeing it in a much less obvious way with the use of technology where we are replacing people with machines. In an effort to stay more connected, we are actually disconnecting with each other. Just think, you can step into a car these days and be driven around by someone who is not physically sitting in the drivers seat. You can go to the grocery store and not interact with anyone except a machine at checkout. We are moving more and more away from human interaction through customer service and it is a disheartening change and trend.
There is another example I saw of this yesterday when I had to go inside at my bank to pick up something for my son. I hadn’t been in there in over a year. When I walked in, I immediately noticed it. Aside from the manager coming to the door to open it for me (they can now see one of my disabilities), the environment was sterile…not welcoming like I am used to. When I walked in, it was obvious that it was not a friendly environment. I tend to ‘take in a room’ as soon as I enter it and in this one I found two over-sized ATM looking machines right in the middle of the lobby. Gone were the original tables and chairs with smiling, friendly people sitting behind them that a year ago had changed into standing desks where you would walk up and stand and talk with a person while doing your banking. Gone were the coffee bar and the popcorn stand with bags of popcorn. All that was left in their place were these two big machines and two glassed in offices and only two employees…the manager and a bank representative. The manager seemed stressed and the rep seemed quite depressed and no matter how hard I tried to strike up a conversation with her, she barely looked at me or spoke to me. It took me a few minutes when I got back to the car to pull back from the sad emotions that I felt when I entered the bank.
And, so, I am writing this today more as a plea than anything else. No matter where we go, can we all try to spread some sunshine in the lives of everyone we meet? Can we show each person the value they hold simply by being themselves? Can we be of service to others even if we aren’t in the service industry? And, most of all, can we all hold on to that feeling we get when we interact with another person and can we work our hardest to try not to replace people with machines and with things?
PEOPLE ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT part of our world. Let’s not change that!
Some things are better left unchanged. Let’s not change our need for others. Let’s not eliminate the need for people in our lives simply in the name of progress and because we are in the age of technology. And, mostly, let’s remember that PEOPLE are what makes life so great!
I hope each of you have a wonderful rest of your Tuesday! Happy Tuesday everyone ❤
A post from the word of the day challenge blog inspired me to post a blog today. Their word of the day is REST and it is a word I take very seriously 🙂 Rest is an important component of all of our lives and it is something I never valued very much until now. My family and I were always on the go…doing one thing after another and forgetting to take in the moments. Whenever I think about those times, I think of the song by Simon and Garfunkle “Slow Down, You Move Too Fast” (The 59th Street Bridge Song) and I just shake my head at how fast we were moving.
We got to the point that we were spiraling out of control with one activity after the next…being so busy that it was hard to settle down and sleep at night. Then we would get up the next morning and do it all over again 🙂 REST is one of the reasons we moved out to the country. We were looking for a slower pace. A place to easily transition from a busy day right into a relaxing and peaceful evening then into a restful night of sleep. I wasn’t able to do that in the city. Although we lived in a suburb, it was still a city in itself and our home was near a very active part of town. We would hear sirens from the fire stations that were a mile away to the east and a mile away to the west and our neighborhood was in between them. We were also on a busy street with cars going by day and night with people going to their homes or to their jobs or to all the neighboring restaurants and shops nearby. And, while it was exciting to be a part of all the busyness and it reminded me of Richard Scarry’s children’s book… ‘BusyTown’, ours never seemed to slow down much. We definitely were a part of the “hustle and bustle’ of the city. But here’s the thing….even with all that, I still had that FOMO (fear of missing out) feeling. I was never satisfied…never content.
No longer are we a part of that…it works for some and I would even go so far as to say it works for many, but for us…it just didn’t.
Out here in the country and lake life, my day began this morning as four geese flew overhead in formation right outside my bedroom window. Only this time, they flew in silence so all there was to do was watch their flight across the sky. They flew low, just a few feet above my home and if I had been quick enough, I would have captured it with my phone camera…but, I wasn’t and I wasn’t because I have had to slow down and REST these days. But, great things have happened with my slowing down and resting, it encourages me to take in the moments and I have become much more appreciative of all life has to offer us. I take time throughout the day to appreciate this beautiful world of ours more than I ever allowed myself, I have a strong sense of empathy that pulls me to reach out to others, and I place so much more of a value on the relationships I have now. Oh, and that feeling of discontent…it’s no longer there. 🙂 Here I can REST as much as I want and where I want. I can rest on my patio as it is very peaceful there or I can go and watch the ripples and waves of the water at the lake and rest there or I can sit out in front of my home and look into the trees and at the old oak tree and many times watch the deer walk on by and rest there.
Living here and slowing down a bit, I have discovered so much about life and ALL it has to offer. I no longer rush through it with that tunnel vision that, sure, the tunnel vision kept me focused but it also made it so that I missed out on the BEST things because I couldn’t slow down to REST and just enjoy.
I hope you have a restful and happy day doing the things you love and value in life and remember take those ‘time outs’ to REST, REST, REST and re-energize yourself so you have the energy to enjoy the most important parts of life.
Winter is officially OVER! Yippee!
Today we celebrate the Vernal Equinox. Vernal in Latin means ‘to bloom’. At 5:58 p.m. EST, the sun will cross directly over the Earth’s equator and this ‘happening’ is called the Equinox which NASA says literally means ‘equal night’. With the Equinox, we transition from shorter to longer days(at least half the planet does 🙂 )and we get more sunlight as the sun rises higher above the horizon.
On today, March 20th-21st depending on where you live, there are fun things to know about to make the most of this day.
FIRST: have you had your egg today? Or do you have plans to celebrate the tradition of seeing if an egg can stand on it’s end? This tradition, we believe originated in China. They also celebrate by having egg-rolls today.
SECOND: For either hemisphere…have you gotten outside yet and ‘connected’ with nature. It’s said to be the perfect day for it. If you do, take time to listen to the sounds you hear. Lately, we have heard many animal sounds here…especially the coyotes at night and the rooster at all times of the day. And, the last few days, the birds have woken us up early with all their talking and singing.
THIRD: Soak in the sun! I sure hope you have some today. The sun does wonders for our physical and emotional health. All it takes is a few minutes each day to reap its benefits.
FOURTH: Watch the clock and be present at the exact moment that the equinox occurs. In other words…enjoy the moment…make it something special. We will be celebrating with an outdoor picnic of eggs, fresh spring fruits and vegetables and meats and wine.
FIFTH: Do some planting. Whether its plants or flowers or trees, it’s a fun way to celebrate.
SIXTH: Tell stories to your children about things in the past. Get together and tell neighbors, families, and friends stories about yourself. IT’S WORLD STORYTELLING DAY today too and that, to me, is a fun way to celebrate.
SEVENTH: Lastly, Get out and enjoy the last SUPERMOON of 2019. It’s happening tonight too.
There are some countries that celebrate Mothers Day today, while others, like India and Turkey celebrate the New Year.
It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes by Maya Angelo…”we are more alike than we are different” as all of us on this planet of ours today are experiencing the Equinox. So, have a wonderful time celebrating and enjoying the Spring Equinox if you live in the Northern Hemisphere and the Autumn Equinox if you live in the Southern Hemisphere.
HAPPY Equinox Day everyone!
We had our picnic for the Equinox. At the exact moment, one of our resident doves started cooing and when we opened our Dove dark chocolate candy for dessert…the message mine said was Hello Spring and hubby’s said Feel the sunshine!😊☀️😊
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This quote was spoken and written by Corrie ten Boom. I think I would like to add FEAR to it and have it say fear AND ‘worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.’ I felt this first hand yesterday…not anywhere near the level she must have felt worry by living during the Holocaust and being imprisoned for hiding and keeping safe 100’s of Jewish people,(her’s was an incredible family) but, nonetheless, I felt fear and worry these last few days.
The feelings we’re there as I agreed to do a medical test on Monday that had the potential of being very scary if I were to develop an allergic reaction while undergoing it. I trusted my doctor who requested it but then I started thinking about it more and more and I found myself feeling anxious and my worry and fear levels were high. I had even started questioning the decision making of my doctor even though she and I have developed a rapport and an understanding over the years. I was seriously in worry and fear mode and I was having a hard time climbing out of it. 🙂
I had these feelings despite living in this very peaceful place that brings me calmness and solace whenever I need it. And, here’s the thing, it wasn’t like an intuitive feeling this time…it was more of a lack of trust feeling which my hubby says I get at some level each and every time I visit a doctor or medical facility for myself or any member of my family. You see, I do not like hospitals, doctors, and medical procedures and would go so far as to say that I avoid them as much as I can. In fact, if you were to be in the hospital, do not expect a visit from me😊, although I would call and talk to you for as long as you want. It’s the one thing I can’t turn around into a positive even though I see so many examples of people getting better simply by embracing the medical profession. I think, for me, it’s that I have been around it so much that I still see going to appointments, procedures, hospitals, as a negative experience because having to go to them means that something is wrong or someone is sick and that is not a positive. I know, it’s kind of a twisted way of looking at things but since it’s the only thing I look at this way…I tend to give myself a pass.
But, now after today’s experience I am finding myself grateful for the staff there today that helped calm my worry and fear, grateful for my doctor…for being responsible enough to test, grateful that the results of the test told us there was nothing to fear and grateful for my hubby that went with me just in case and also because we are each other’s ‘sidekicks’ and when one of us is going through something….the other keeps the mood light and fun. We have known each other for 33 years and it’s never been dull or boring and we have each other’s backs ALWAYS. We have recently added another characteristic to our relationship and that is when either of us falls behind, which I often do these days, the other waits up.
And, so it is with these thoughts that I end this Tuesday blog with the lessons learned that my worry and my fear of something that had a ‘potential’ of causing me distress never happened and it merely robbed me of the strength to fully enjoy the days before. Why fear those things that may never come to pass? Why not look to all the wonderful things that can happen and, in my situation, all the great things that can happen after the not so pleasant experience is over and done with. And, that is exactly what I am doing right now….celebrating today, celebrating all the recent accomplishments of my children, celebrating the beautiful nature that I am looking out on as I write this, and celebrating that I am as well and as strong as can be expected and I have the ability to enjoy all that life has to offer. I will work hard next time to not let my fear and worry put a cloud over all the beautiful things we call life.
Have a HAPPY Tuesday!
Thanks for reading and following my blog. I am grateful for all of you💚💕💚
The hawk against the sunny blue skies is always a beautiful sight.
The woodpecker; right after he flew down from the oak tree. I tried to get him on the tree but either I was too slow or he was too fast. I prefer to think the latter😊watching the donkey and the horses
Do you know why donkeys are often seen with horses around here? We are told it is because the donkeys can be really mean when threatened and if coyotes and wolves come near and see the donkeys, they stay away from the fight so it’s said that the donkeys protect the horses. Not sure how true this is but it’s good folklore if nothing else. Someone’s enjoying the nice weathertwo tiny foal or colts, it’s definitely springtime Out having a fun time. We got to see them being called in and it was fascinating to see about sixty of them running towards the barn. These guys run around a few streets down from us.
The water was calm and the weather was cool and crisp and it made for a beautiful view. No leaves on many of the trees yet which allowed for a peek through the trees to see the beauty and the quiet ripples of the water. It was so peaceful.
This past Saturday, we were blessed by 23 people who drove in from all over this state with the closest being 40 minutes to an hour and 15 minutes away and the farthest being 4 and 5 hours away to join us for a country style lunch in our home.
It was amazing! Everyone was able to put a pause in their busy schedules to come together for that whole afternoon and early evening for no special occasion, just a random March day, no reason other than wanting to spend time together and all of us finding time to make it happen.
And, that’s the family connection. It’s the pull we feel when we haven’t seen each other in a while, the connection of being in a family with similar roots and the sharing of the good and hard memories together. We each bring something important to the family and the conversations and we each have a seat at the table and we want to be in each other’s lives.
This was one of the best times I have had celebrating life with family. We ate, we drank, we laughed, we talked, we watched the kids play with the toys and on the swing hanging from the big oak tree in the backyard, we held and hugged the babies and each other and we caught up on each other’s lives. We missed the ones that weren’t here as we shared memories of past gatherings. We remembered those past family gatherings when, the now grown nieces and nephews were children and once again noticed how quickly things change.
We sat on the patio soaking in the sun until it got too hot and we had to move indoors. Then my sister had the great idea to take the gathering out to the front where it was cooler and we did. We spent the rest of the day out there talking about life with some of us taking turns running after the kids and the rest of us sitting around the unlit fire pit just off of the front porch. From there we could look into the woods and enjoy the peacefulness or look up to the sky and see the beautiful(and rare) sunny day. At one point the geese flew overhead announcing their presence with the sound of their wings flapping and their voices honking as they went by. My guess is that they too wanted to somehow be a part of our day.
And, then it happened, as all things do, people had to start packing up and heading back to their homes and their lives. Our day together was coming to an end. But, I had made sure to enjoy each moment and to spend time with each person that was able to make it out to our home in the country and for that I was able to feel gratefulness when they had to leave instead of sadness.
This whole scenario reminded me of the children’s book called ‘When The Relatives Came’‘ and although only two stayed the night this time, one of my nephews announced that pretty soon we will have to start calling these gatherings family reunions and I thought to myself that he had just done a bit of foretelling and I was glad that he did as that will help us all remember to cherish each and every time we get together.
And, now the last of the family have pulled out of our driveway heading back to their homes five hours away. I again do not feel the sadness as the family connection is strong and growing stronger everyday, and, for that I am very grateful.
And so, the lesson learned here is to seize the day, seize the moments, and cherish the time we have with each other because when tomorrow comes, those moments and those days become our memories. make them good ones😊☀️😊!
More pictures of our little town💚. The bottom picture show a cormorant sunning himself. Cormorants are water birds that are excellent divers and propel themselves with their feet and help from their wings while they are in the water. They are known to dive up to 150 ft to catch fish.
This is the visual from many of the blogs I’ve written about this place. Go with me down this small road into our little community. This way you get to see some of the things I talk about when I write.
The OWL tree and the 100 year old barn. He moves from this tree to the one in the front of our house. This tree sits across the way east of us. It’s the tree on the left of this picture.
The horses and donkey pasture
Where the stallions live….
Taken from my patio….
Just down the street from us….
One of the female wild turkeys that roam near us…..
This is one of the beautiful painted buntings that we see here. Taken from my window as I did not want to disturb him. I also edited it and zoomed so you can see him better. I love the splash of yellow on his back. It makes for a huge contrast with the red and blue.
One of our cute little roadrunners on our front lawn…..
A road about ten minutes from us….I love how beautiful it is….Last October, we beached the boat in an alcove and went exploring….
Our ‘resident in charge’ cardinal. There are so many of them now as last year quite a few babies appeared in the spring.
I plan to start taking more pictures of the animals out here. My hubby says we need to get one of the bobcats, the red wolf, the owl, the emus, chickens, roosters, and the polo horses and donkeys. I will be working on that.
Have a wonderful Monday taking in all the beautiful things to see in this world of ours ❤
I was counting blessings today. It’s good for me to do that often 🙂 and one of the things that I am most thankful for is being so close to the lake and I was grateful that I walked all the way to the waters edge and sat for a bit.
As I sat there, these were some of the things that caught my eyes.
Thanks for stopping by. I hope you enjoyed the tranquility I got to experience today. 💚☀️💚