For A Reason, For A Season

They say…that friends come into our lives for a season and for a reason. I know this sounds cliche’ but this is one of life’s true and universal statements. It’s also true that many people come into our lives for a purpose. Maybe it’s just to drop a little message to us that we need to hear or to give us an example of how to be or how not to be…but the intention is to make an impact on us in some way.

Friends I thought I would stay best friends with for my entire life are either no longer a part of my life or scarce…and friends I never expected to be friends with have become mainstays. Life is like that…always changing and many times…it’s not what we expect. But I am thankful for each of them and for what we have brought to each other’s lives.

In all of these cases, each friend has enriched and blessed my life in some way. Many have taught me, many have helped me become a better person, many have brought joy to my life and have helped me through some battered times. And, only a few have brought hardship, hurt, and sadness yet they too were here for a reason, I accept that, and THANKFULLY only for the season 🙂 I, in turn hope that I have done some good in their lives. Although, I have to admit that friendship is one of the things I feel like I don’t ‘do’ well. 🙂

But, there is a story I would like to tell you, about a woman who did have the whole friendship thing down although I believe, she too, would have said she didn’t feel like she was good at it. She was pretty humble. Her name was Anne and she was the epitome of friendship. She was kind, helpful and caring and she was genuine. When she was thinking about me, she would pick up the phone and call me. She enouraged me and I hope I did the same for her. When she would visit me, we would sit at the kitchen table talking about anything and everything sometimes into the night and into the early hours of the morning. She encouraged me to be me, to go on adventures, and to love and care for others. She had ‘my back’ and I had hers in the good times and in the not so good times. And, here’s the thing…I wasn’t Anne’s best friend but I felt loved by her, included and valued by her and to me, that is what friendship is all about.

I remember one such time in my life where my little family and I were ‘hit hard’. I couldn’t talk to anyone, I was immobilized by the tragedy at hand, heartbroken, and stuck in grief but she wouldn’t give up. She kept calling until I picked up the phone and she got me talking, crying, and even laughing, and working through the loss of our unborn baby. She is no longer in my life although the impact she made on it is visible every single day of it.

My HOPE for all of you is that you have many friendships where you feel loved and valued by another simply because you are YOU ❤ Have a wonderful Tuesday!

Lessons learned… Cherish the people, the friends, in your life in each moment and cherish those who stay in your life in all circumstances.

26 Comments on “For A Reason, For A Season

  1. So well done. As I read this, I was thinking of faces from past years now left behind. Those were people whom I would go to war for, and I know would go to war for me. I am a better person because of them, and I thank you for stirring the memories. — Mike

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  2. This is soooo timely! I had a long term friendship just end. I have never had that experience before so it was a new thing in life to grieve. It’s very sad for me, but it was unhealthy for both of us for a long time. Our expectations of one another no longer matched what could be given, so, it was time to say goodbye. She was a big chunk of my life and I will be forever grateful for the things we experienced together. However, I do believe life will be better for the both of us going forward. For a reason, for a season ❤️

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    • Pam, your comments made me smile. I am so happy the timing was right for you to see this. It IS hard. I have had a few of those and we definitely do grieve the loss. But you are way ahead that you know that it was time for both of you to move on to other things. Wow! I am
      sure that you have some beautiful memories to remember her by. The spot she filled opens you to others. At least that is how it was for me. 💜

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  3. It was literally just a month ago!!! In hindsight I didn’t handle things like I should have and it created a lot of hurt for her. Lesson learned. But I also don’t shoulder the entire burden here. I hope you don’t either! And yes, now open to other things, people, etc. it feels amazing!!!!

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    • Oh my goodness…it’s still pretty ‘raw’ for you with being so new. I think the burden is on each of us in the relationship. It just seems to stop working and life changes. Each one is different. I choose to celebrate the times I enjoyed with them and to learn from both the hurts and the blessings💗

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      • Totally agree, I don’t dwell on the bad, it just doesn’t make sense to do that. Life always throws a lesson out there doesn’t it? Just when I think I have seen it all. Haha. Keeps me humble which is good. 😊😊

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      • Yes, it doesn’t get us anywhere except for the lesson learned from it. 😄, not sure I will ever have seen it all’ but you’re right, many days that’s how
        It feels😄. It keeps me
        growing😊

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  4. A beautiful post. I have had friends like Anne who have never given up on me and then I have been a friend like Anne to numerous people in my life. I have had unkind friends that turned on me and life long friends who always have my back. We do learn from good and bad friends.

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  5. This is so beautiful! I am happy we have reconnected . If we can say that . I don’t think we disconnected just life stepped in for a bit. And had me drafting. I love you girl . We have way to much in common not to be friends.❤️

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