Take My Hand

The healing value of hands…

Take My Hand
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When my children were little, I would tell them to hold my hand. I did that primarily when we were crossing a street, in a busy place and I wanted to keep them nearby, and when I wanted to make sure we were connected. I did it so that I was completely sure they were protected. And, yet, even though I thought I was doing it for me, it also helped them to feel safe and secure.

From the time we are all very young, we learn to grasp things with our hands. We learn to value the many things we can do with our hands. We use them to help each other. We use them to feel safe by grabbing the hand of another, we use them to feel connected, to write, to build, and to create beautiful things. We use them to show love, care, a sense of connection, and value to another person or living thing. And, we use our hands to heal each other.

When my hubby and I were first dating, we held hands as we walked and anytime we wanted to feel close. Now we hold hands while watching a movie or shows, when we pray before meals, and when we just yearn for that connection.

It’s about saying your presence helps me feel better without actually speaking the words. What we can do with our hands has always been something that I hold dear to my heart and so the other day when I was watching the show The Good Doctor, my attention was drawn toward the lesson Shaun was experiencing. Shaun’s character portrays a person with autism who is also a doctor.

I enjoy this show very much from the standpoint of a special education teacher who worked with, taught and learned valuable insight from many individuals with autism. I saw the daily struggles they dealt with when it came to understanding and not understanding social and life cues.

In the show, Shaun is uncomfortable with the sense of touch. He is slowly learning that it feels good to hold someone’s hand…that it gives him and the other person a way to connect and to feel support and even though he feels strange about it, he is also discovering it’s benefits.

Holding hands can also be therapeutic simply by taking the hand of someone who is dealing with fear, facing danger, or someone who is grieving…it’s a way for them to know that someone ‘has their back’, is right there with them and they are not alone.

We were never meant to go through life alone. When I think of the many times that someone has helped me feel better simply by using their hands, I feel valued, blessed, and loved and that is a beautiful feeling…one that I want to not only receive but also to give.

Lessons learned: I am so thankful for all the caring and loving people in my life that express themselves and their care of others by using their hands. It reminds me to watch out for others and to show care to those in need of love, healing, a connection to another, or to feel safe. There is a famous song by the Beatles called…I Want To Hold Your Hand. It’s a gentle reminder that we have it in us to let others know how much we care simply by taking their hand. We were never meant to go through this life alone. We were meant to give each other a helping and loving hand.

15 Comments on “Take My Hand

  1. Wonderful post. Holding hands with others is the best way to make a connection and show love and compassion.

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    • Hi Diane,

      I not only agree with peggyjoan42 but also like to share with you the song entitled “Stranger In Paradise” whose lyrics start with “Take my hand”. Please enjoy!

      Take my hand
      I’m a stranger in paradise
      All lost in a wonderland
      A stranger in paradise!

      If I stand starry-eyed
      That’s a danger in paradise
      For mortals who stand beside
      An angel like you!

      I saw your face and I ascended
      Out of the commonplace into the rare
      Somewhere in space I hang suspended
      Until I know there’s a chance that you care!

      Won’t you answer this fervent prayer
      Of a stranger in paradise?
      Don’t send me in dark despair
      From all that I hunger for!

      But open your angel’s arms
      To this stranger in paradise
      And tell him that we need be
      A stranger no more!

      According to Wikipedia: “Stranger in Paradise” is a popular song from the musical Kismet (1953), and is credited to Robert Wright and George Forrest. Like almost all the music in that show, the melody was taken from music composed by Alexander Borodin (1833–1887), in this case, the “Gliding Dance of the Maidens”, from the Polovtsian Dances in the opera Prince Igor (1890). The song in the musical is a lovers’ duet and describes the transcendent feelings that love brings to their surroundings. Later versions were mostly edited to be sung by male solo artists.

      Happy mid-November to you! May all of you have a very lovely weekend! 🙂

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      • Thank you and thanks for sharing the lyrics. It’s beautiful! I’m so glad you liked the blog. Holding hands is such a powerful expression of caring. Happy November to you as well. 🙂

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  2. I am reminded of how my oldest child always reached for my hand automatically when we left our car in the parking lot. What a blessing–a tender touch of love and connection. And how sad it was the day he received a funny look from an older child. That was the last time he reached for my hand.

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  3. Aww. Your entry about holding hands is nice. There’s one thing also, that needs to be remembered. Holding hands is wonderful. The only time there is something wrong is if one of the parties involved chooses not to hold a hand, and then is forced to hold hands. (not counting little kids when crossing the streets etc.), I’m talking teens, young adults and adults. If they don’t want to hold hands and they are forced to do something like that, this is not natural and not nice. YES… other than that holding hands is a wonderful , connecting thing; it’s warm, and kind and lovely, and just really human. walkingjournalist

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